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Chantel Brink
Chantel Brink
January 28, 2024 ·  3 min read

12 Things You Should Keep to Yourself

In a relationship, one of the best things is communicating openly and sharing thoughts, feelings, and hopes. However, there’s a bit of uncertainty about whether you should reveal everything that crosses your mind. Some thoughts may be too personal or not contribute positively to the relationship, and that’s okay. It’s essential to strike a balance, and there are certain things you might want to avoid sharing with your partner to maintain harmony.

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Bringing up Trauma During Fights

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During an argument, it’s crucial not to throw your partner’s trauma in their face, especially portraying it as a flaw. The goal is to make them feel safe, not take away that sense of security.

Balancing Honesty and Privacy

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Striking a balance between honesty and privacy is vital. Some things are better left unsaid, and understanding what those things are contributes to a healthy relationship.

Criticizing Unchangeable Physical Attributes

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Avoid criticizing physical attributes that your partner cannot change, such as height, body features, or hair loss. These aspects are beyond their control, and it’s unkind to point them out. Kindness is crucial, as men are already aware of these traits.

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Belittling Each Other

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Never belittle your partner in any way. Kindness is essential, even during arguments or moments of frustration. It’s a two-way street, and respecting each other is crucial.

Sharing Explicit Details About Past Physical Life

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Keep explicit details of your previous physical life or your ex’s secrets to yourself. While discussing preferences is fine, dwelling on explicit details can make your partner uncomfortable.

Avoiding Criticism and Belittling

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Learn from the past and avoid criticizing or belittling your partner’s appearance or achievements. Jealousy shouldn’t lead to cutting down your spouse to feel better about yourself.

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Keeping Past Relationship Details Private

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Maintain privacy about past relationships, including income levels and occupations. Sharing these details may lead to unnecessary comparisons or jealousy, potentially causing issues in the current relationship.

Expressing Preferences for Others

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Avoid sharing preferences for spending time with someone else, especially if it makes your partner uncomfortable. Such revelations can linger in their mind and affect the relationship negatively.

Comparing Your Partner to Others

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Avoid expressing that you would typically be attracted to someone with specific characteristics your current partner lacks. This kind of comparison can be hurtful and damaging to the relationship.

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Revealing Physical Dreams Involving Acquaintances

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If you’ve had a physical dream about someone you or your partner knows, keep it to yourself. Dreams are not reflective of conscious feelings, and sharing such details may create unnecessary tension.

Sharing Hurtful Information Without Solutions

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Refrain from sharing hurtful information without offering a solution. Discussing something painful if it leads to positive change is acceptable, but sharing harmful details without a purpose is wrong.

Dictating How Your Partner Should Look or Behave

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Respect your partner’s individual autonomy and personal expression. Instead of making moral judgments about their behavior, communicate how their actions make you feel.

The Bottom Line

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In conclusion, while open communication is crucial, discretion is equally important. Building trust involves knowing when to share and when to keep certain thoughts to yourself, ensuring a harmonious and respectful relationship.

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