Jade Small
Jade Small
November 30, 2023 ·  2 min read

Reclaim Your Personal Power In ALL Your Relationships By Doing These 5 Things

In the realms of companionship—be it friendship, camaraderie at work, or romantic entanglements—we frequently relinquish our influence, oftentimes unwittingly. Here are five pathways to regain sovereignty over your personal empowerment:

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The first step in reclaiming power lies in recognizing instances where you’ve ceded it. Identifying moments when you’re on the verge of surrendering your authority to another is crucial in preempting these challenges. For instance, phrases like “I’m not sure/I don’t mind; you decide” or “What should I do?” accompanied by feelings of regret, resentment, or resignation may indicate a forfeiture of power. Passivity, indecisiveness, or waiting for others to act on your behalf can erode your empowerment. However, discernment is key; these actions may sometimes be suitable, contingent on the circumstances. It’s a subtle interplay that requires attentive observation.

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Own Your Actions

Mastering effective communication and maintaining empowerment involves taking ownership of your contributions. Acknowledge your own limitations without falling into a victim mentality or being overly critical, and candidly express these to the other party. If your partner employs shame, belittlement, or attempts to control you, maintaining resilience by acknowledging your emotions at the moment can illuminate how their behavior impacts you—without assigning blame. For instance, “When I sense coercion, I tend to become defensive and unyielding.”

Let Them Assume Responsibility

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We aren’t accountable for others’ emotions (even though societal norms may dictate otherwise). Expressing your truth thoughtfully while respecting their reactions—whether positive or negative—is crucial. Ultimately, their response is their concern. Avoid micromanaging their feelings or reactions; allow them the autonomy to take charge of their own emotional responses. Imposing a list of expectations on them can feel like accusation and fault-finding.

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Abandon the Competitive Stance

Reclaiming power may sometimes feel like a struggle or competition, especially when you’re navigating this territory for the first time. If you find yourself in this position, don’t criticize yourself, but analyze why it occurred and contemplate alternative approaches. While setting boundaries is vital for empowerment, constructing an impenetrable fortress isn’t necessary.

Nurture Compassion and Self-Acceptance

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Mastery of effective communication and empowerment flourishes when rooted in self-love and compassion for our imperfections, quirks, and fears. Extend this love and empathy to others, fostering interactions that are mutually fulfilling. Recognizing that those we engage with possess similar vulnerabilities fosters empathy. Demonstrating this compassion can encourage others to reciprocate.

Embracing personal empowerment within complex relationships or scenarios is an evolving journey that demands time. Feeling confident in some connections while apprehensive in others is natural. Reflecting on empowered relationships can unveil qualities you can introduce to those where empowerment seems elusive. Remember, we’re all evolving; exercise patience as you confront fears, cultivate new skills, and conscientiously nurture your personal empowerment.

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