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Chantel Brink
Chantel Brink
February 1, 2024 ·  4 min read

10 Signs You Are With the Right Partner, According to a Psychologist

This piece of relationship advice sounds good and might be worth considering. A psychologist recently shared nine signs that successful couples consistently show to help you figure out if you’ve found the right partner. Another contributed a tenth piece of advice that cannot be ignored. Around the same time, the hosts of “The View” praised a story by The Post that listed seven things to avoid after intimacy to keep your lover interested.

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Here are 10 ways to tell if you have found the right partner

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While it’s important to be on the same page with your partner in the bedroom, according to Psychologist Jeffrey Bernstein Ph.D., the author of “Why Can’t You Read My Mind,” there’s more to ensuring a relationship is fulfilling.

You have open communication

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Talking freely and honestly is “essential” for a worthwhile commitment, says Bernstein. “If you and your partner can express your thoughts, feelings, and needs without fear of judgment, that’s a positive sign.”

You spend quality time outside of the bedroom

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A spiritual, adventurous, rewarding life can help you grow closer to your loved one. “Spending quality time together is vital. If you both prioritize and enjoy spending time with each other, it adds to the overall satisfaction of the relationship.”

You strive for a deeper emotional connection

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Bernstein notes that longtime couples may lose the initial spark, but efforts should be made to rekindle that love. “Feeling emotionally connected is crucial. If you feel a deep sense of understanding, support, and intimacy with your partner, your relationship is likely fulfilling.”

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You show respect

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Building blocks for a better relationship include creating a deeper appreciation, understanding, and respect for each other’s daily experiences. “If both partners respect each other’s boundaries, opinions, and individuality, it contributes to a healthy and fulfilling relationship.”

You get a good gut feeling about it when you’re with the right partner

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When you pay attention to your heart, you’ll sense whether the person you’re dating is the right fit for you. This is often referred to as ‘intuition’ — it’s your heart’s way of communicating with you. “Keep in mind that your intuition may send out warnings as well. It may come as a gut reaction. For example, if your partner wants to change you in any way. He/she is not accepting you for who you are. If that happens, run. That is a sign of a controlling person and he/she will never treat you properly.” – Tracy Malone, relationship expert, and YouTuber

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You prioritize conflict resolution

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Successfully managing disagreements and finding solutions together indicates a healthy relationship. “If you and your partner can navigate disagreements respectfully and find solutions together, it indicates a healthy relationship.”

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You focus on shared values

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Considering each other’s values can foster more intimate relationship growth. “If you and your partner align on fundamental aspects of life, it can enhance the fulfillment of your relationship.”

You create a supportive environment

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Partners should encourage personal growth and be there for each other during challenges. “If your partner encourages your personal growth…and is there for you during challenges, that is a gift that keeps giving to both partners.”

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When you’re with the right partner, you have a satisfying intimate life

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A strong passionate intimate life is crucial to emotional growth. “If both partners are satisfied with the level of physical intimacy and feel a connection through it, it contributes to fulfillment.”

You remain independent when you’re with the right partner

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Maintaining your interests and supporting each other’s pursuits can contribute to a well-rounded connection. When you’re with the right partner, this comes naturally to both of you as you want to see your partner thrive.

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  1. Relationship experts say these are the 12 ‘green flags’ the person you’re dating is right for you — and some are surprisingly simple.” Business Insider. Lindsay Dodgson. July 19, 2023
  2. Are you with the right partner? Nine telltale signs from a psychologist.” NY Post. Alex Mitchell. January 5, 2024