We are the ones who choose the people that stay back in our lives. We make this decision based on our mutual interests, comfort or need. But sometimes we may end up letting few toxic people stay back in our lives. Even one toxic person is enough to ruin your life and your dreams.
Hans F. Hansen says, “People inspire you, or they drain you—pick them wisely.”
As the only thing toxic people do is spreading negativity, unnecessary problems, strife, tension, and stress in our lives. Toxic people resist logic as well as empathy for others. Sometimes it may happen that some people innocently end up causing a problem.
Such people are happily unaware of the negative impact that they have on those around them. Some just seem to derive satisfaction from creating chaos in other people’s life- mostly out of sheer jealousy.
Here are 10 types of toxic people you must avoid in your life to maintain peace:
We have all had such type of a person in our lives. Manipulators pull time and energy out of your life under the disguise of friendship. They can be complex to deal with because they treat you like a friend. They know what you like, what makes you happy, and what you think is funny, but the difference is that they use this information as part of a hidden plan. Manipulators always want something from you, because for them it’s all about taking with little or no giving. They’ll do anything to win you over just so they can work you over.
It is okay to have people who guide you by giving you fruitful criticism. But some just love to criticize. No matter how good you are at your task or how many efforts you put in a particular activity, these types of people will somehow find a way to tell you that it’s not good. They are extremely negative and pessimistic. Nothing is ever good enough, and no one will ever succeed in anything, according to them. They will judge you. Would you like to be around someone like this?
“Great minds discuss ideas, average ones discuss events, and small minds discuss people.” – Eleanor Roosevelt. Gossip is what holds our society together these days. It is okay to gossip once in a while after all we are all humans. But, if you’re with someone who constantly gossips, you really need to think over it. Not only are you wasting time with the nonsense, but also spoiling your own mind. Also, if your friend can gossip about others in front of you, can you guarantee that they will not gossip about you in front of others?
Self-Absorbed people believe in “ME” and not “WE.” Whatever they do, think, or say is always surrounding them. It is necessary for everyone to care for your own self but self-absorbed people go way beyond that. They can be identified caring only about one’s own self and one’s own activities and not be showing interest in the rest of the world. Their own emotions, feelings, activities, comfort, needs, etc. should be prioritized. In the simplest of terms, they can be termed as selfish, egocentric and egoistic.
Envy in other terms means jealousy. We have had such people in our lives. They are jealous of your achievements, happiness, success and the love you receive. They measure their fortune against the worlds when they should be deriving their satisfaction from within. Hence, they will do anything to make sure there is no one better than them. Spending too much time with envious people is dangerous because they teach you to underestimate your own endeavors.
We all have needs. Sometimes, we ourselves aren’t able to fulfill those needs and thus end up asking for someone’s help. But some people make this a habit. They are constantly asking for something or the other. It starts with something small and may end up with something big like money, materials, etc. Stay away from habitually needy people.
These are the kind of people, who have absolutely no control over their emotions. At any given time, they will lash out at you and project their feelings, assuming that you are the one causing their discontent. They pay easily end up playing the victim. Temperamental people are tough to dump from your life because their lack of control over their emotions makes you feel bad for them. But don’t get blown away. Stand up for yourself and learn to say no. These kinds of people may harm your ability to focus and it’s good to avoid these kinds of toxic people from your life.
8. Dementors – Are The Most Toxic People You Must Avoid
I’m sure you all are familiar with J. K. Rowling’s famous “Harry Potter” series. According to the series, Dementors are evil creatures that suck people’s souls out of their bodies, leaving them merely as shells of humans. Whenever a Dementor enters a room, darkness sets in; people get cold and immediately start recalling their worst memories.
Guess where she got that idea from? J.K. Rowling said that she developed the concept for Dementors based on highly negative people – the kind of people who have the ability to walk into a room and instantly suck the life out of it. We too have such people surrounding us and it’s best that we avoid them.
We all are liars. As humans, we make mistakes and lie occasionally. But there are many habitual liars who leave no room for trust in a relationship. It is extremely annoying to be with someone who is constantly lying on your face. You may even develop mistrust for others because of such people. So, it’s better to stay away from such type of toxic people
Slackers are the ones who laze around and don’t complete any tasks assigned to them. In turn, they somehow make you do their tasks. Being around someone who habitually avoids work and does not really feel like doing anything might be extremely discouraging and demotivating, no matter what you want to do. They may make you do their work and end up taking the credit for the same themselves.
To conclude, choose the people you are around wisely because not only will they motivate you to achieve your dreams, but also have an everlasting bond.