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Julie Hambleton
Julie Hambleton
April 25, 2024 ·  4 min read

8 Subtle Things Women Do That Turn Men On

When it comes to attraction, men and women often display different preferences and triggers. While some of these preferences may differ from person to person, there are certain subtle things that women do that generally turn men on. Understanding and incorporating these small gestures or behaviors into your interactions can help create a stronger connection and ignite that desired spark of attraction.

8 Subtle Things Women Do That Turn Men On

Relationships and dating can be difficult, whether you are trying to find your ‘perfect’ partner or keep things fun with the one you already have. Many surveys have been done asking heterosexual men things that women do that turn them on (and vice versa). For the hetero ladies out there, these are the subtle things that men find the most attractive.

1. Confidence

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Confidence is universally attractive and one of the key qualities that turn men on. Women who are self-assured and comfortable in their own skin exude an irresistible aura. Confidence in oneself portrays independence, intelligence, and charm, making men more drawn to women who display it naturally. Most men can agree that this confidence is a turn-on both in and out of the bedroom. If he seems intimidated by your confidence rather than turned on, he probably lacks confidence himself. Do yourself a favor and find a partner who has enough self-confidence to let you shine, too.

2. Genuine Smiles

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A smile can instantly brighten up a room and captivate the attention of those around. A woman who genuinely smiles, especially in the presence of a man, can subtly indicate interest and create a pleasant, inviting atmosphere. A heartfelt smile can make a man feel acknowledged, appreciated, and, most importantly, desired. We aren’t saying that you need to smiley and nice all the time, however, you may want to be aware of an RBF (resting b**** face), as they don’t tend to give off welcoming, come-talk-to-me vibes.

3. Playful Teasing

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Playfully teasing a man can be a powerful way to build tension and attraction. This kind of banter allows for light-hearted exchanges that exhibit wit and intelligence. It shows that the woman is comfortable enough to engage in such banter and adds an element of fun and flirtation to the dynamic, leaving the man wanting more.

4. Active Listening

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Women who actively listen and engage in a conversation show genuine interest in a man’s thoughts, feelings, and experiences. Maintaining eye contact, nodding, and providing thoughtful responses demonstrate attentiveness, which can be extremely attractive. Men feel valued and understood when they are being heard, fostering a deeper connection. Rather than think about what you will say next, focus on what the other person is saying and ask questions based on that to show your genuine interest in their experiences.

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5. Subtle Touches

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Light, subtle touches can create immediate chemistry and stimulate a man’s senses. Brushing his arm during a conversation, a gentle touch on the hand, or even fixing his collar can send chills down his spine. Non-verbal communication like this can convey interest, comfort, and intimacy, turning a man on subtly yet undeniable.

6. Intelligence

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Intellect is an aphrodisiac for many men. Engaging in intellectually stimulating conversations and expressing well-thought-out perspectives demonstrate intelligence and depth. Women who can hold their own in a conversation and offer unique insights are often more desirable as it inspires mental attraction and emotional connection. We are not saying you need to be the smartest person in the world, but staying up-to-date on current events helps a lot. If you find yourself conversing on a topic that you don’t know much about, refer to number four (active listening) to gather more information that may help you form an opinion.

7. Authenticity

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Being true to oneself is highly attractive and can ignite a man’s desire. Women who embrace their unique qualities and are unafraid to express their true selves radiate authenticity. They are comfortable with their flaws, vulnerabilities, and imperfections, creating a genuine connection and making a man feel at ease and accepted. More than attracting a man, this will help you be generally happier. It feels good when you are being authentically you – not to mention it will allow you to attract a partner that is actually a right match for you.

8. Subtle Scent

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The power of scent should not be underestimated. Women who wear a subtle, captivating fragrance can turn men on without saying a word. Certain scents have been scientifically proven to evoke positive emotions and trigger desire. Women can leave a lingering impression that captivates a man’s senses by wearing a fragrance that complements their personality and chemistry. Remember, however, do not wear too much. Rather, you want a fragrance that enhances your natural scent.

Be True To You

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Attraction is a complex interplay of various factors, and what turns one man on might not have the same effect on another. While these eight subtle things women do can generally ignite desire in men, individual preferences and chemistry always play a crucial role. The key is to be mindful, authentic, and attuned to the unique dynamics between yourself and the person you’re interested in. Incorporating these subtle behaviors and gestures into your interactions can enhance the connection, create intimacy, and increase the likelihood of igniting that passionate spark. Finally, don’t compromise yourself just to attract someone else. Fill your life with what makes you happy, and you will find someone who shares those interests much more easily.

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