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Jade Small
Jade Small
December 2, 2023 ·  3 min read

Why Some Suffer Before Passing Over

Some people seem to pass to the other side without any pain or traumatic experiences. While others are riddled with pain and agony up till their final moments on earth. So, why do some people suffer before passing over?

Sherrie Dillard is an intuitive medium, psychic, and author who has published several books. Sherrie also houses and feeds the poor and homeless in major cities across the United States. Also, she has “built simple water systems in Indian villages in the mountains of southern Mexico and Guatemala and created art therapy programs in treatment centers for troubled youth in North Carolina and Georgia.” [1]

Someone recently asked Sherrie why their grandmother had suffered so long before dying. According to Sherrie, there are several reasons this may have happened.

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When Sherrie was presented with that question, it really hit home. Being able to relate to what the person was asking made her response even more heartbreaking.

Over the course of a year, my mother went from playing tennis two hours a day, to being bedridden, riddled with pain and unable to think clearly. When she died it felt like a blessing.”

Sherrie Dillard

Have you ever watched someone’s physical body start to decline? The body and soul are two separate entities, however, they inhabit the same space for a period of time. When the soul is ready to move on, some very interesting things must take place first.

I learned that although it appears to make no sense and be a cruel way to live out the last days of life, the soul doesn’t abide by our human perceptions. On some level we accept and create all that happens to us.”

Sherrie Dillard

In Sherrie’s mother’s case, she was told that her mother chose to suffer in this way. The reason? In order to “burn” off negativity and karma before entering the higher vibrations of light. According to Sherrie, this was so her mother could rid her soul of accumulated energy that would prevent her from achieving bliss.

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Other Reasons for Suffering

While there are folks who accept the imminent passing and who have lived good, illuminating lives, others take a different approach to death. They let fear take full control. As such, this fear prolongs their suffering. Even if they were one of the best people on the planet, and they had no negative karma to burn off if they held fear in their heart their death would likely include some suffering.

Sometimes we choose a slower more conscious experience of dying to become more aware of our spirit and soulful self. It is only the physical and ego self that suffers. Dying pushes the soul to the forefront. Many people become aware during the process of dying that there is a part of them that is eternal.”

Sherrie Dillard

Sherrie also mentions that some people have been so close to death that they could see their loved ones on the other side. In order to comfort them, and those who are on earth, they hold on a little longer. Sadly, this takes a toll on the physical body and this is where suffering starts.

“They see their loved ones on the other side and make frequent trips into the spirit realm to check it out before they go over. Sometimes people linger and die slowly as a way to bring comfort to those left behind. It can be hard to let go.”

Sherrie Dillard
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Whatever remains on the other side, we often have a choice to make right before we reach the precipice. To confront our fears, or to give in to them and suffer. Everything we do has a consequence, and sometimes we need to think about the repercussions before making a significant choice. Overall, remember to be kind. To yourself, and to others.

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  1. Sherrie Dillard.” Linked In
  2. “Question: Why Do Some People Suffer Before Passing Over?” Intuit-YOU-niversity.