How do you know if you have met your “one true love?” Here are 10 uncomfortable signs that you are actually in the best relationship of your life:
1. You have no problem with the fact that you don’t just get to do anything that you want anymore.
You are a little cautious with how you carry yourself as a human being. You are more calculated with your actions because you know that the repercussions no longer affect just yourself. You always have to take into consideration how your actions and words are going to affect your partner and you’re okay with that. You no longer live a life for yourself anymore and that doesn’t bother you at all.
2. You start feeling more comfortable in your own vulnerability.
You allow yourself to welcome the kind of vulnerability that comes with genuine relationships. You no longer care about always putting on this façade of a rough exterior to seem manly and strong. You allow yourself to have weaknesses and you willingly expose them to your partner. You start to understand that in order for you to completely trust each other, you have to be able to be vulnerable to each other.
3. You no longer tiptoe around potential points of conflict with your partner.
You used to walk on eggshells around your partner because you were always afraid that you might trigger certain arguments that you don’t want to be a part of. However, the best kinds of couples don’t shy away from arguments and conflict because they know that their bond is strong enough to overcome. You know that your relationship is solid enough to withstand any argument that you and your partner might potentially have.
4. You no longer feel this compulsive need to prove your partner wrong all the time.
Being right and correct all the time isn’t as important to you know as it used to be. You let your partner win arguments now because you know that swallowing your pride is necessary to sustain the longevity of the relationship. You have grown to understand that winning an argument and proving your partner wrong isn’t as important as preserving the harmony in the relationship.
5. You’re okay with the fact that things aren’t just going to go your way every time.
You no longer get to call all the shot in life. You don’t always get to have the last say. Decisions are no longer entirely just yours to make. And you’re okay with that. You are fine with letting go and delegating some powers to your partner because you understand that teamwork is important in every relationship. It can’t always be just about you and that doesn’t bother you at all.
6. You know that you’re changing as a person and you’re fine with that.
Relationships have the power to change people. A lot of people will be uncomfortable with change. They will not be so welcoming to the fact that the relationship is actively altering the makeup of that person’s personality. But for the people who are in strong relationships, they don’t really mind the change. You are the kind of person who now embraces the changes that are brought about by relationships.
7. You are no longer the priority of your life.
It’s not just your personal self that you should be thinking about anymore. You are choosing to merge your life with another person and that means you will have to make some compromises here and there. That’s fine with you because you know that your relationship is more important than your own selfish desires at this point.
8. You are challenged to become a better person because of your partner.
Your relationship is always pushing you to become the best possible version of yourself. You are becoming more ambitious and hardworking because you know that your partner doesn’t deserve a mediocre version of you. You always find yourself wanting to improve your abilities and live up to your maximum potential for the sake of your relationship.
9. You willingly take on the stresses and pressures that are thrust on your partner as your own.
Everything that bothers your partner also bothers you. Normally, you would like to be selfish. You have your own stresses and worries and so why would you want to take on another person’s? That has changed now. You are okay with owning your partner’s difficulties because you see yourselves as a team and you have to share both the good and bad parts of each other’s lives.
10. You accept and love all aspects of the relationship, whether it’s good or bad.
It’s no longer all just about the good times for you. You really adore and cherish all aspects of the relationship. You know that any rough patches that you will have to go through together will only make you a stronger couple in the long run. You understand that relationships aren’t always going to be perfect and you’re fine with that. You see the imperfections in your relationship and you still think that what you have is something special and beautiful; something that’s worth fighting for.