8 Signs You Have A Strong Personality That Might Scare Some People

When people encounter someone with a strong personality, they don’t understand the kind of person they are dealing with.

Some people think you dominate. Some just think you are rude. But none of these are the truth. These words actually do not reflect your personality at all. In fact, strong people are often kittens on the inside. It’s just that people with domineering personalities just give you a bad rep. Strong people do not have to win, they just are not willing to let other people walk all over them on the outside.

Sure, some people might be afraid of you. But that is only because they do not understand how you can be so comfortable with yourself that you do not need anyone else to validate you.

Here are eight signs that you have a strong personality that might scare some people.

You Don’t Put Up With Excuses

Strong personalities do not put up with excuses. When you have a strong personality, you’re not willing to listen to people waste time whining about what they can do. You would rather focus on what you can do and how you can overcome obstacles to do more.

Don’t question yourself for not making excuses. There might be a lot of reasons that you can’t do something but there are more reasons that you can.

You Are Careful About Who You Let Into Your Life

As a strong person, you do not rely on other people to tell you who you are, what you are or what you can do. You recognize that some people need to do that to make themselves feel better. You also recognize that some people need to hear these things to feel whole.

Even if you don’t yet know exactly who you are, you know that you do not need a boyfriend, girlfriend, boss, best friend or family member to tell you what you’re capable of. You can figure that out on your own.

You Hate Small Talk

Small talk is terrible. If you have a strong personality, you have a lot of ideas. You do not want to waste time talking about people when you could be changing the world.

You might feel like you are bad at small talk. But that is not true. Anyone can make small talk. What you’re feeling is a discomfort because small talk wastes time and brain cells.

You Can’t Stand Insensitivity, Idiocy or Ignorance

Dominating personalities come from a lack of influence or knowledge. Strong personalities are the result of being thoughtful and well-informed. There is a huge difference between the two.

Because you have put time and effort into using your brain for good, you hate it when people make instant judgements about things they do not know anything about. This is probably your best quality but not because you can use your knowledge to influence people. It is because you can use it to encourage people to actually think about what they say before it falls out of their mouth.

You Know How to Listen

People with strong personalities know how to listen. You might think that people would appreciate this. But in reality, being heard and encouraged actually terrifies people who are not used to it.

You Do Not Need Attention

Having this type of personality means that you do not need attention. Most people that you encounter think that you thrive on it but this is not the truth. It just that your personality attracts people to you. The amount of socializing you do is not because you want to do it but because people need people like you around.

Despite this perception, you still need time to recharge. Don’t be afraid to take it. It is just as important to take care of yourself as it is to take care of other people.

You Are Fearless

Okay, this one is not true. There is probably one thing that you are afraid of. But the difference between you and other people is that you do not let this fear dictate the way you live your life.

You Take Insecurity As An Opportunity

Insecurity for you is an opportunity to do better. You know you’re not perfect but if you are not trying to learn and evolve, despite the risk of looking like a fool, then you are not living. You are just existing.

They say everyone is insecure and this is probably true. But not everyone has to stop this insecurity from letting them live their life and own the things that they are insecure about.

Sure, some people think that people with big personalities are difficult to be around. But you’re only difficult to be around because you challenge other people to be the best version of themselves! If this is what being difficult is like than you already know that it is best to just keep being you.



17 thoughts on “8 Signs You Have A Strong Personality That Might Scare Some People

  • October 31, 2016 at 12:32 am

    I have strong personality I understand people and listen to them as much as I can once they start using excuses for their behavior like oh I had to do XY&Z instead of saying I was being rash and angry, or I didn’t have the time or just being honest about their feelings about the situation at hand I will then interrupt that person.

    My former boss of mine used her family as an excuse for not training her staff properly, then blaming the staff for their poor skills, I know people who use I don’t feel like it as an excuse not to clean their homes or do something with someone, instead of saying I’m very tired from work school etc, or I’m very busy with etc. People use I don’t know, I didn’t feel like it, I don’t want too, etc to poor friends roommates partners students etc .

    And this article is right I won’t tolerate it I do force people to be honest and tell me why. You’re an adult you know exactly why you can or can’t do something unless your are disabled.

  • October 30, 2016 at 3:14 pm

    I’m real. Say things dillagently and according. Like to laugh, work hard and have an extreme amount of fun doing so.

    My big personality however has proven to cost me a job. Mearly because it’s so large and unusual. They realize that smiles, laughing and happiness is contagious. Very. All they wanted was sticks in the mud working for them.

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  • October 27, 2016 at 3:42 am

    I agree any people with strong personalities that l know dont listen they interrupt and dont listen to everything that is said.

  • October 26, 2016 at 3:54 pm

    I agree with you to a point, Phila. The point I do not agree is that a person with a strong personality can listen and doesn’t need loads of attention if they have integrity and some humility. Knowing that I do not know everything keeps me listening and learning. I believe what your’e referring to might be an aggressive or maybe even a bully personality.

  • April 27, 2016 at 3:51 pm

    Not only do I agree with the writer here, but I must address the naysayers. Not only do I have a strong personality, but in addition, I’m a realist. Being a realist allows me to separate that which applies to me and that which does not. It’s my personal belief that it is what’s missing from the naysayer’s understanding… To rightly divide that which applies to one’s own self and that which does not verse implying the whole article is untrue.

  • April 27, 2016 at 12:01 am

    Thank you Raven Fon. I have harbored these very same thoughts my entire life but seldom meet people who see and understand this state of being. Though I have not always enjoyed the separations that resulted from my attempts to simply be present with people, realizing that these perspectives are at the forefront of my mind; I acquiesce and remain apart from people who usually begin by falling victim to cognitive dissonance in the form of attacks on my person, even whilst I (most times) remain calmly removed from their aggression. The negative comments above are typical responses. As for me, needless to say, I am a fan.

  • April 26, 2016 at 4:05 pm

    Which is why there’s a difference between strong and domineering. You’re thinking of domineering people, and as the writer says: those two are often confused for one another by other people.

  • April 26, 2016 at 2:54 am

    Yes, totally agree with PhilaBob, people that think they are strong and confident are actually usually just being inconsiderate of the people they are supposed to care about i.e. friends and family. And attention bahahahaha the attention is what drives them. Don’t get me wrong there are confident people out there, but the truly confident individuals would not display the behaviour suggested in this article

  • April 24, 2016 at 6:08 am

    yep, exactly… Also, this article is way off on many levels. The writer must’ve been really misinformed about how major personality traits are categorized. Terrible read. So terrible that it made me write a comment here!

  • April 24, 2016 at 12:06 am

    Sorry, so called “strong personalities” are often self centered and DO NOT “know how to listen.” It’s only when you stop talking that you learn something new. They also often need attention, LOTS of it.

  • April 22, 2016 at 9:48 am

    This is soo true

  • April 22, 2016 at 8:20 am

    this is so accurate, blows my mind

  • April 22, 2016 at 2:18 am

    I read this article 2 hours ago, wondering who is like that. Ten minutes ago, a respected friend sent me this article and told me it describes me. Mixed feelings! Never knew I may have scared some people I have worked with. Thanks!

  • April 21, 2016 at 10:37 pm

    A strong person automatically disregards any statement that begins or contains on numerous occasions the letter “I” as they know that person has nothing of value to teach them.

  • April 21, 2016 at 5:06 pm

    Love some of the ideas you present, and usually you present a balanced presentation. Well done.

  • April 21, 2016 at 12:52 pm

    I absolutely love this . Love when I read something that is so on the money when I look into who I am it’s not funny. I’ve alway had people drawn to me and then as moral as I am as a person, they start to shy away because they can see that every untruth they had just spoken trying to dominate themselves you’ve seen straight through it. And yet still stayed totally humble and not said a thing. Fake people wonder away but the down fall is sometimes it can be lonely and frustrating as most people being scared and fear your strength seem to attack or try destroying you behind the scenes. Of course you already know this and wait.
    “Feared by many,
    Hated by some.
    Confronted by none.

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