“Sex is fun – not a serious affair” (Osho)
Ordinary sex: For most people the sex act is a release of tension, or as Osho puts it, ‘it’s like a good sneeze’. If a man feels an overflow of sexual energy, he usually wants to release it as quickly as possible in order to relax. However, if he ejaculates, there will be a waste of energy.
Tantric sex: When the sexual act is practised with meditative awareness and without loss of the seminal fluids, there is no loss of energy, and the act is notfollowed by fatigue and a feeling of the blue. On the contrary, following the Tantric sexual act vital energy is multiplied and conserved. When both partners melt with each other, vital energy is exchanged between the masculine and the feminine, and the energy build to higher levels.
The Indian master Osho says: ‘If you are not in a hurry to finish the act, it by and by becomes less sexual and more spiritual. Sex organs also melt into each other. A deep silent communion happens between two body energies, and then you can remain for hours together. This togetherness moves deeper and deeper as time passes. But don’t think. Remain with the moment deeply merged. It becomes an ecstasy, a samadhi, cosmic consciousness’ (Osho: Book of Secrets, p. 468).
Quotes from Osho:
“Sexuality is a simple, biological phenomenon. It should not be given so much importance. Its only significance is that the energy can be transformed into higher planes.”
“The feeling of emptiness that is overtaking the whole Western mind is just because of sexual wastage.”
“Sex has to be transformed – neither repressed nor indulged. And the only possible way to transform sex is to be sexual with deep meditative awareness”
“And if you become meditative, you will come to realize a new fact. That fact is that it is not sex that gives you bliss, it is not sex that gives you the ecstacy. Rather, it is a thoughtless state of the mind and total involvement in the act that gives you a blissful feeling.”
Controlling the orgasm through conscious breathing
The more you can open up to these feelings, the more orgasmic energy you can contain. When the sexual act is done with meditative awareness, you can expand a space of consciousness in the etheric or emotional body, and enjoy the sexual energy longer without wasting it.
In order to prevent a physical orgasm, prolong the pleasurable feelings and preserve the energy, the ANS must be controlled and kept in balance. This is best done by using relaxed, conscious breathing while you meditate. If the ANS is kept in balance without large fluctuations, the energy will try to rise through the middle channel called Sushumna up through the chakras and eventually reach the brain. This is a very difficult exercise, and in most people the energy will try to rise through either the Ida or Pingala channel activating the corresponding parasympathetic or sympathetic systems.
However, non-excitatory sex done with meditative awareness makes it possible to hold the energy in the etheric body in an ever expanding space of conscious awareness. This exercise will only be successful if you manage to control your breathing while you are consciously observing the energy. Margo Anand, Tantric Sexual Master trained by Osho says: “…you should train yourself to become accustomed to containing more and more orgasmic energy without immediate release.”
The following exercise was designed by Osho:
“Before you move into love, just sit silently together for 15 minutes holding each others hands crosswise. Sit in darkness or in a very dim light and feel each other. Get in tune. The way to do that is to breathe together. When you exhale, she exhales; when you inhale, she inhales. Within two or three minutes you can get into it. Breathe as if you are one organism – not two bodies but one. And look into each other’s eyes, not with an aggressive look but very softly. Take time to enjoy each other. Play gently with each other’s bodies. Don’t move into love-making unless the moment arises by itself.” (The Everyday Meditator, p. 107, 1993).
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