It’s sad to say, but not everyone who claims to be “spiritual” actually is. Many are simply pursuing their own agendas, be it money, fame, or political influence. These “fake neo-hippies” come in many shapes and forms, but perhaps none is more dangerous as the Spiritual Narcissist. A Spiritual Narcissist is someone who uses the concepts of spirituality to build themselves up while they tear others down. If left unchecked, their actions can inflict devastating harm on both believers of spirituality, and those who follow another path.
Below are five warning signs that you may be dealing with a Spiritual Narcissist,
1.) They constantly reference their own achievements
The Spiritual Narcissist loves to promote themselves and their accomplishments. “I meditated for five hours yesterday.”
For them, every conversation is an opportunity to share just how superior they are to the average “spiritualist.” They typically go about this by listing off their own achievements. The Spiritual Narcissist will flaunt anything they believe might bring them praise.
2.) They invade conversations
The Spiritual Narcissist craves control, and their highest authority is always their own self-reference. As a result, it’s not uncommon for them to invade the personal or private conversations of others. They’ll often do this under the guise of “helping” or “correcting” fellow spiritualists, but they have no real interest in two-way dialogue. You’ll notice they also have a way of injecting their own opinions into situations, and are the first to voice their complaints about “all these fake spiritual people.” How ironic.
There’s no good way to speak with Spiritual Narcissists, the best response you can make is stand your ground and refuse to be bullied.
3.) They manipulate the words of others to suit themselves
Susan B. Anthony once said, “I distrust those people who know so well what God wants them to do, because I notice it always coincides with their own desires”. In the same way, a Spiritual Narcissist uses the words of Buddha, the Dalai Lama, and many others as a tool for their purpose. They take some of the most powerful words from these people and approach them with a closed mind. They memorize only a handful of useful quotes that will justify their behavior. Anything else, particularly ones that conflicts with their actions, gets ignored.
4.) They profess love, but never show it
Perhaps the easiest way to identify a Spiritual Narcissist is to see if their actions match their words. Many will claim they have nothing but love and compassion in their hearts for everyone and that “we are all connected,” but their actions prove otherwise.
Love is more than words, love is actions. That’s what separates the truly spiritual person from the Spiritual Narcissist.
5.) They talk, but never listen
Listening can be a powerful tool for everyone. Listening builds trust, creates empathy, and fosters understanding among individuals. The Spiritual Narcissist, by contrast, is quick to speak, quick to take offense, and incapable of listening. They enjoy being the loudest one in the room, and the idea of deferring to someone else galls them.
Do you recognize any of these traits in someone who claims to be “spiritual?”
Written by GKT for MysticalRaven.com