The concept of a soulmate has long been the subject of debate. Many love the idea of it and fully believe in it, while others are skeptical that they even exist. Some believe that there’s just the one, while others think there are multiple. Deborah Graham, psychic and host of Sirius XM’s “The Psychic Connection,” believes that each person only has one soulmate, but has multiple spiritual matches. She also believes there are signs to look for if you want to know if your partner is your soul match.
Lock and Key. According to American Writer Richard Bach, “A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are.”
Concept. Everyone has heard of the concept of soulmates. While quite a few people don’t believe in it, many believe that each person has at least one soulmate. Deborah Graham, a psychic known for her SiriusXM show “The Psychic Connection,” believes that there is one soulmate for each person, but there are multiple spiritual matches.
Appealing. Even if you don’t believe in soulmates or spiritual matches, there’s something comforting about the idea. There’s someone out there that’s meant for you and understands you on a deeper level than you thought imaginable. If you’re more of a monogamous type of person, the idea is even more appealing.
Spiritual Match. She told Bustle, “When you find your spiritual match, you will experience a feeling like you’ve never felt before. This is a real feeling and not something invented by and simply for romantic movies. But this relationship will be far from simple — or easy.”
Worthwhile. The relationship with these spiritual matches are definitely worthwhile. Your spiritual match may be a “twin flame,” a term Deborah uses, who has the intention of being with you forever. They may also be in your life for a short amount of time to teach you something or provide you with love you may be missing.
Looking for a Sign. If you’re wondering if you have found a spiritual match or soulmate there are signs to look for. So think long and hard about your partner and check to see if they fit in any of these signs.
“Telepathic” Connection. There are a few different kinds of telepathic connections you may experience with your spiritual match. You may notice that if you haven’t heard from each other in a little while, you and your partner have begun messaging each other at the exact same time. Or you walk in the door when your partner, who wasn’t expecting you yet, was just thinking about you.
“Telepathic” Connection. You may also find yourself completing each other’s sentences. You can also communicate with each other with just a look from across the room. These are all indications that you and your partner are connected on a psychic level, according to Deborah.
Feel Familiar. The easiest way to tell you’re around a spiritual match is that you suddenly feel incredibly, but inexplicably, comfortable around them as soon as you meet them. Deborah told Bustle, “Meeting them is like coming home. There isn’t a feeling of newness, but instead a high level of understanding and familiarity.”
Show Your True Self. You and your spiritual match will find it easy to share who you truly are inside. You will have no fear in expressing things that you thought would be shameful, and they will understand. They will also help you discover more about yourself, while also teaching you how to love yourself more.
Show Your True Self. “Your souls know each other, they make sense to each other. You get each other as the result of a timeless connection. You learn more about yourself through being with them, your heart feels free,” Deborah explained.
Butterflies in Your Stomach. Your partner may be your spiritual match if you get butterflies in your stomach every time you see them. This simple and sweet reaction is not to be underestimated. Graham believes that this is your soul’s way of signaling to you that this person is meant to be a special part of your life.
Easy But Challenging. Most of your relationship with your spiritual match will be easy, adding to that comfortable feeling. But there’s no such thing as perfect. There will also be incredibly challenging in parts, teaching you more about yourself and them as well. It will strengthen your relationship.
The Fear. Deborah told Bustle, “What leads to the breakup in these types of relationships is that both parties are not ready for the feelings, draw, and sensation that come with this connection. [But] if ready, these types of relationships are designed to bring out the best in both involved.”
The Fear. Sometimes finding your “perfect match” can be absolutely terrifying. You may be worried when the rug will be pulled out from under you or if you will ruin it somehow. You know that there’s a lot on the line and it can make the idea of commitment scary at times. But believe in yourself and learn to ignore the scary parts. Enjoy the amazing ride with your spiritual match.