It’s supposed to be mutual, not one-sided.
It probably goes without saying at this point that balance is absolutely essential in sustaining a strong, harmonious, and healthy relationship. You would never want to be in a relationship where there is a substantial imbalance in the way things are being conducted. You always want to make sure that the dynamics of your relationship are running like a well-oiled machine. Should any imbalances or deficiencies be present in the dynamics of a relationship, it can potentially pose as a great threat to the stability and integrity of the romance.
And unfortunately, there are plenty of relationships that fall victim to this kind of phenomenon.
There is just no way to salvage a relationship where there is no equal exchange of effort, love, affection, and intimacy. Remember that a relationship is a two-way street and that both people involved should act as willing and active participants in making the relationship work. The strength of a single person’s shoulders will not be able to bear the weight of the entire relationship. It must always be a shared effort between two individuals into ensuring the longevity and strength of a relationship.
Not to say that imbalances in a relationship are unable to be corrected. A relationship can always be salvaged if issues are spotted and addressed early on. However, when left unchecked, imbalances within a relationship will eventually lead to a destructive end and you would never want that for yourself.
The trick is always in being able to realize that you are in a relationship with blatant imbalances, recognizing the problems, and making the necessary corrections to improve the state of things. But how do you know if there are imbalances in your relationship? Well fortunately for you, there are a few things that you could keep an eye out for. Use these clues to help you spot potential points for improvement in your love life. These are 9 signs that you love someone more than they love you.
1. They don’t really ask you too many personal questions.
A person who is madly in love with you would definitely be obsessed with learning as much as they could about you and your life. If they feign a sense of disinterest and indifference, then perhaps they don’t love you as much as you thought.
2. They never give you a feeling like you are a part of their future.
You never feel like you are a part of your partner’s future with the way that they make plans without you. They rarely ever include you in the planning process and you end up always feeling left out.
3. You are always the one who has to get the action rolling.
You are the one who always has to send the first text. You are the one who is always scrambling your brain to think of a conversation topic. You are the one who always has to ask your partner out on a date. All the effort comes from you.
4. You are rarely ever asked for your thoughts or opinions on things.
Essentially, what you have to say or think doesn’t really matter much to your partner. Your thoughts and musings are of little significance to the person you are supposedly madly in love with.
5. You find yourself competing for their time with their friends.
You should never have to feel like you are competing for your partner’s time in a relationship. You should allow your partner to live their own individual life, but they should also be carving valuable time out for you and for the relationship. If you feel like you are constantly shortchanged, then there’s an imbalance there that you need to correct.
6. They don’t think it necessary to reciprocate your romantic gestures.
You are the one who always whispers words of affection into their ears. You are always the one who is splurging on gifts. You are the one who plans surprise parties for them. But you never get the same kind of treatment.
7. You are never made to feel secure in your relationship.
You are never really made to feel like you have a place in your partner’s life. You take your relationship day by day because you aren’t really even sure that you have a secure place in it. You are constantly being given a reason to second-guess your worth in the relationship.
8. They don’t really concern themselves with your goals and plans.
If you were really with someone who loves you deeply, they would always want to make sure that they have a place in your future. But if they don’t really give a damn about your personal goals and plans, then they might not be so invested in your future as you once thought.
9. You feel burned out with having to always make them happy.
You always feel like it’s your job to generate the happiness in the relationship. But the sad part is, you’re the one who is becoming unhappy and the pressure of the relationship is really starting to get to you.