Author Adam Grant literally wrote the book on relationships and success. His runaway best seller, Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success, provides “fantastic insight into romantic relationships,” writes MindBodyGreen.
Lauded by social scientists, business theorists, and corporate leaders alike, the book is based on the idea that our ability to interact and communicate effectively is what holds the key to success in the modern world.
According to Grant, people fall into one of three categories: givers, takers, and matchers. And when it comes to relationships and attractiveness, givers are apparently the most likely to have long-term love. “The trait people most highly value in potential romantic partners (both men and women) is kindness,” they write. “Givers also tend to be affectionate, a trait that strongly affects the longevity of a relationship.”
Of course, being a giver has its drawbacks, too. “Givers’ strongest motivation is to take care of others and to contribute to their lives in positive ways,” they explain. “As a giver, you may often think about gifts for your partner or about things you can do for them.” But this type of selflessness can result in them taking the blame for things or even thinking they’re unlovable or not good enough since they tend to take responsibility for the relationship.
Do you agree that the giver personality type would be most likely to attract long-term love? Share your thoughts below, and pick up a copy of Give and Take to learn about matchers and takers.