If what you want is to be a good girlfriend in order to make your boyfriend happy – that’s great. He should want to be a good boyfriend in order to make you happy as well.
In order to do that, I’m going to give you some of the “secrets” behind being a good girlfriend (and a good partner in general).
Many, even most of these secrets can be applied equally to either partner, regardless of their gender. It’s about wanting what’s best for you, your partner, and what will make both of you happy.
So without any more intro, let’s get into it. Here are the top secrets for being a good girlfriend.
1. Honesty Is A Vitally Important Thing
Honesty is one of, if not the most important part of any healthy relationship.
Be honest with yourself about how you feel about the relationship. Be honest with yourself about where you see the relationship going. And be honest with yourself about what makes you happy and what bothers you.
If he does something that bothers you – it’s OK to be honest with him. You can tell him what he did and why it bothered you without being demanding or telling him to change his behavior.
It’s up to him to decide what to do with that information. If he decides that he doesn’t care if his behavior bothers you… you can decide whether it’s worth it to still be in a relationship with him.
The only way a lasting, solid, and happy relationship can be built is if both partners are happy and enjoy being around each other when they’re each being their genuine selves.
2. Let The Relationship Progress Naturally
If you want to be a good partner, it means living in the present. Not the future. Not the past. It means being happy where you are now and acting accordingly.
Now, I’m not saying you can’t look forward to the future – far from it. Everyone who’s feeling a little head over heels at the beginning of a relationship fantasizes about how the future is going to go.
But if you want to have the best, most solid, and happiest relationship – the best thing to do is let it progress naturally, and keep yourself in the moment rather than the future.
3. Be A Team With Each Other
If you want your relationship to work and you want to be a good girlfriend, it’s all about being on the same team.
That means supporting each other, giving each other positive encouragement and love, and holding each other up when you’re going through tough times.
I’m not saying you have to agree with everything he says or does – far from it. What I am saying is that if you want to forge a strong bond together and be a great girlfriend, you have to be on his “team” – the same way he has to be on your “team”.
4. If He’s Looking For Space, Give It To Him
I’ve seen so many promising relationships go off the rails and fall apart because this one simple secret doesn’t get remembered.
It’s tragic to see in action. If a woman feels like her man is pulling away, it can trigger a panic reaction in her – where she feels like the sky is falling and that if she doesn’t do something right now to pull him back to her, he’s going to be gone forever.
The reality is that 99% of the time, that couldn’t be further from the truth. And the tragedy is that whenever someone (a man or a woman) panics and tries to pull their partner back from pulling away – it backfires and pushes their partner further away than before.
The cliff’s notes version is essentially this: if it feels like he’s pulling away from you, the best way to be a good girlfriend is to give him the space he’s looking for to sort out whatever’s bothering him, and let him come back to you when he’s ready.