There are several types of extremely problematic guys (such as narcissists, psychopaths and manipulators) that will work hard on breaking your spirit by blackmailing you, humiliating you and destroying your self-esteem. They are afraid to lose you and they claim they love you. They will do anything just to manipulate your feelings.
If you notice that he uses some of the following sentences, you should see that as a red flag. Unfortunately, these kind of people can make huge damage in your life and that’s why it’s so important to see the signs as early as possible.
1. If you leave me, I will kill myself.
HUGE RED FLAG. This kind of demented people use blackmail because they know it usually works for some time. This will be useful until the moment when you realize you don’t really give a shit what would he do—that there is nothing worse than putting up with him.
2. Look what you have done, you made me…
This is so dangerous because he is using mind tricks. He wants to show every bad thing as your fault. He yelled because you provoked him. He hit you because you deserved it. He’s acting like a complete asshole, but he wants to convince you that you made him like that. Does this sound familiar? If yes—RUN!!!
3. Don’t piss me off!
This is a situation in which he is openly showing you that you’re inferior to him. He reminds you what happens when he’s angry, and he wants you to know you are about to pay the price for it. Don’t let fear overcome you, and get rid of him ASAP!
4. If you love me, you will do that for me.
He’s a selfish bastard. He is giving you ultimatums because he knows your weakest point. No matter how crazy his demands are, you have to fulfill them in order to prove your love. Girl, this is SICK. Nobody should make you do things you don’t want to do, because that is defined as abuse.
5. My ex used to do that like this…
He is probably still attached to his ex who dumped him because she obviously realized how crazy he was. He constantly compares you to her and he openly shows you that you’re not good enough. The truth is—he’s not interested in you, you’re there just to fill some empty place in his life.
6. You don’t want me to be happy.
This one usually comes with some crazy demand you don’t want to do. He is obviously excited and happy about some crazy things that you don’t like. He doesn’t care about your opinion, he wants what he wants, and that’s why he is subtly blackmailing you by this sentence.
7. You’re too weak to be alone.
He knows you’re not strong enough to ditch him right now, because you’re probably afraid to end up alone. He wants to convince you that nobody else wants you anyway. He works really hard on shaking your self-esteem because the weaker you are, the easier it is for him to manipulate you.
But, in the end, one thing is absolutely true—being single is way better than a relationship with a maniac!