In terms of our personalities and how we approach others, we are often placed in one of two categories: Introvert or Extrovert.
Is it possible to be a little bit of both? Have you ever wondered what qualities specifically make up each and what they indicate?
In this article we reveal what it means to be one of those fascinating people who loves to spend time alone and challenge the perceptions that they’re lonely, depressed, and full of anxiety.
Do you have a friend who would rather stay in over shared cups of tea and pass up the Music Festival of the year? Do you enjoy your own time so much that you’ll travel alone, go to dinner and have a glass of wine for one, as well as catch the occasional film with nobody by your side? If so, I am right there with you, because I do all of the above, but the problem is…
People who love to spend time alone have to explain themselves, as if it goes against a societal expectation of what’s normal and what’s not.
Here are some great qualities of people who like to spend time alone:
1. They’re Extremely Loyal
They don’t very often have a wide social circle and if they do, you won’t find them out every night of the week with large groups, lining up for the hottest club opening. They instead seek out meaningful and trustworthy friends who they feel comfortable to welcome into their space and share details of their life with. If you have a friend who likes to spend time alone, you can guarantee that this person will be there for you through thick and thin.
2. Surprise! They’re Open to New Ideas
Just because they cherish their quiet time doesn’t mean they won’t do something new and exciting. They just make sure to have their quiet time before taking the plunge into a highly social activity.
3. They Have a Level Head
They spend so much quiet time on their own, taking the time to navigate and contemplate situations, problems, and to really tap into who they are and what they want. They have a strong sense of self and a confidence that radiates from within. When they’re feeling stressed or the weight of the world is closing in? They spend time alone to recharge instead of filling their day with distractions.
4. They Are Comfortable With Their Own Thoughts
I’m sure we’ve all come across that person who can’t stand to be alone with their own thoughts. People who like to spend time alone, particularly in the quiet, display a clear conscience and do not struggle with their inner thoughts. Of course, we can all have down days but they tend to be able to navigate themselves out of any slump.
5. They Understand The Value of Time. Yours and Theirs
You’ll notice a word that keeps coming up in each point. The word is ‘time’. People who spend time alone understand and appreciate it’s value. They put a high priority on making that time available in order for them to function at their highest level and best self; so, when you are giving of your time they understand what you’ve given up for them. They have a deep sense of making sure not to waste your time or to spend time with people who are wasting theirs.
6. They Exercise Strong Boundaries
All of that time alone gives these people the space to think about what motivates them, what works and what doesn’t, and how to properly communicate this. You’ll find that they have strong and healthy boundaries and they exercise their right to communicate these in a really healthy and clear manner.
Have your perceptions changed? Can you see any of these qualities in yourself or a friend?
We all have a different approach to life, celebrating our differences is what’s it’s all about.
Nova Johnstone is a Ballet Dancer, Choreographer, Freelance Writer and Mentor to many young students. Based in Ireland, she is the owner of Destination Dance Ireland where she helps Pre Professional Students take steps towards a career.
She writes her own opinion based, lifestyle articles from mainly a satirical point of view with the thought “if you cant’ make a comedy out of your tragedies, what’s the point?”
She hopes to someday have the opportunity to be a strong public voice for young women to achieve their potential by combining her love of writing, dancing, acting and public speaking.