Just because something is uncomfortable in a relationship doesn’t necessarily mean that it’s a bad thing. You have to remember that relationships are never going to be smooth voyages. There will always be some fits of turbulence every now and then. You just have to be able to weather the storm whenever it comes and you will find yourself alive when it’s all said and then.
One of the tricks in surviving the stresses in a relationship is to actually try looking on the bright side of things. Just because there are some uncomfortable facets to the relationship doesn’t mean that there isn’t any good that can come out of it. Here are few good signs that you are actually in a good relationship with a guy even though it might seem uncomfortable.
1. You question his motives even though you don’t really need to.
You have had loads of bad relationship experiences in the past and so you think that all boys are going to be the same. You think that they will lie and cheat their way into winning you over, but this time, things are different.
2. You always expect him to disappoint you but he proves you wrong.
You’ve been disappointed in the past. People have broken you in previous relationships. And so you think you have to brace yourself for the pain that this relationship is going to bring you. And yet, the pain and disappointment never comes.
3. You don’t believe his promises but he always comes through.
You’ve had to bear the heartaches of broken promises over and over again in the past. And so this time, you try to make yourself immune to such vulnerability. But somehow, this guy keeps on coming through. He actually keeps his promises to you.
4. You’re willing to play the game but he’s not playing around.
You’ve been around the block before. Perhaps you’ve even played the game better than other people have in the past. You know how the game works and you know that there are risks involved when playing it. But he isn’t playing around. You’re not just a game to him.
5. He makes you realize how bad you had it in the past by being the complete opposite.
He makes you so miserable about your past experiences because he makes you realize just how much you’ve been missing out. You were always forced to bear toxic relationships in the past but this time, everything seems so easy and so you are left to wonder why it couldn’t be like this before.
6. He tells you he is sorry even when you don’t expect an apology.
You aren’t used to having men apologize to you. All the douchebags you used to date in the past always thought they were exempted from giving apologies. But this guy is different. He tells you he’s sorry even when you don’t expect it. He actually owns up to his faults and he does it on his own accord.
7. He is patient with you because he knows that you like to stay guarded.
He doesn’t force you to do anything that you’re not comfortable. He won’t compel you to bare your soul to him when you don’t want to. He’s not going to make you do anything that you don’t want to do. He practices maximum patience with you and this is unfamiliar territory for you. You’re always accustomed to guys just trying to manipulate you into doing what they please.
8. You have a fight but he doesn’t let you go to sleep without fixing it.
In previous relationships, you used to deal with fights and disagreements by sweeping them under the rug in the hopes that they go away. However, this time around, it’s not always going to be that easy. He’s going to want to find a resolution with any conflict that the two of you may have. He doesn’t want any bad blood to linger.
9. He’s nice during the times you aren’t being nice to him.
Even when you’re giving him the cold shoulder, he is still ready to give you the warmest of smiles. You know you don’t deserve to be treated that way when you aren’t being nice and yet he still does.
10. You expect him to lie but he’s always all about honesty.
You are always used to men just lying to you to get what they want out of you. But this guy is willing to face the consequences of the truth because he respects you enough to actually be honest with you all of the time.
11. You understand what it means to have a person mean so much to you.
You never used to be so invested in a person before. You used to always just be loosely attached to all your previous boyfriends but it’s different this time around. This time, you know it’s real and it scares the living hell out of you.