by GKT for MysticalRaven.com
There is no such thing as the perfect relationship. Happy couples go through many trials and struggles in order to keep that happiness a part of their lives. But sometimes, you can feel like you are head over heels in love, and after a few months everything begins to fade. How do you know if your relationship is one of them which will last through the ages?
According to psychologists, the reasons divorce rates are on the rise is not because of the couple’s indifference but the inability for them to properly communicate. Most couples who don’t engage in healthy communication exchanges, like explaining how something makes you feel, or being honest about your needs, can cause complications in the relationship. This, in turn, can lead to arguments and misunderstandings. If you can understand and accept the need for constant and healthy communication, and work with your partner, then you’re already headed in the right direction.
1.Give and Take.
Relationships aren’t just about finding YOUR peace and YOUR happiness. It’s not just about taking, but also giving. No relationship can be considered a healthy one if there is an imbalance in give and take. Every couple has to understand that even though we have different needs and personalities, we must both deal with our differences fairly and equally- together.
2. Communicate clearly.
Having honest and direct communication with your partner is a key element in every relationship if you want it to last. It is necessary to communicate with our partner so that the person we are in a relationship with understands us. All of us have a desire to be understood, and to be heard. The more we do this, the more we feel loved and connected to those around us.
3. You don’t ignore each other.
It’s important to acknowledge each other’s feelings and listen to the things that cause each other’s frustrations. Using the silent treatment is never an option for those who want their relationship to last.
4. Choose your battles wisely.
Being in a long term relationship means you get to discover each other’s personality- their best attributes, and their not-so-great ones. This means you must prepare yourself for possible arguments over little insignificant things. Like maybe arguments where you and that person won’t agree on something trivial, or maybe they left their socks on the floor for the last time. Whatever it is, plenty of couple argue over the dumbest things, especially when put into context of issues of true importance. But those who know how to make a relationship last, know the importance of choosing their battles.
5. You accept each other completely.
Regardless of how many arguments a couple may have, a true relationship consists of accepting each other completely- even with their flaws. Now, this doesn’t mean you have to accept everything they do, especially if their behavior becomes harmful towards you or your relationship. But if it’s merely something that is a part of who they are, and it’s harmless, you accept them for who they are and understand that no one (not even you) is perfect.