We all make mistakes in life and the vast majority of us can own up to those mistakes and admit when we are wrong. Not so with the narcissist. It will always be someone else’s fault. They will never hold themselves accountable for any wrong doing. They are masters of deception and manipulation who will blame anyone around them for anything untoward.
Narcissists have not developed a solid sense of self with their emotional maturity appearing to be stuck somewhere in their childhood. When confronted with their bad behaviour they will behave like a five year old throwing childlike temper tantrums, otherwise known as narcissistic rage. Holding themselves accountable is very difficult for someone with fragile self esteem. A narcissist is not capable of empathy and can’t imagine walking in someone else’s shoes to see how their actions may affect others. They only see things from their perspective, how it affects them. Nothing else matters.
They will use every trick in the book such gaslighting and projection to make sure they do not have to admit to being at fault.
Remember that this person does not have remorse and no matter how hard you try they are not capable of admitting they are wrong.
- Say they can’t remember
- Shut down and ignore you
- Blame someone else
- Say how terrible a person you are for accusing them
- Threaten to punish or abandon you if you carry on
- Blame you for making them behave in the way that they did
- Turn the conversation away from their behaviour by criticising yours
Written by Anne McCrea for NarcissisticAndEmotionalAbuse