The late Marilyn Monroe once said, “Sweetie, if you’re going to be two faced, at least make one of them pretty.” Which, as it turns out, is what two-faced people try to do.
Manipulative people will smile and speak innocently, and at the same time, they are making a deliberate attempt to deceive and control your thoughts. Unfortunately, these “nice people” all too often have things go their way.
So, how do we find a solution? It’s difficult, yet easy: we just have to remain keenly aware of those around us, and never hesitate to take the appropriate actions.
Here are 4 signs someone who seems nice, has negative intentions:
1. CONVERSATIONS ARE ALWAYS ABOUT THEMSELVES AND THEIR ACCOMPLISHMENTS
This one isn’t too surprising. Nice people who have less-than-kind intentions are wired to dominate every single discussion. Normal people, even though some may lack active listening skills, will at least try to engage in conversation. These types of manipulators are not to be considered ordinary people when it comes to human conversation.
If the ‘nice person’ picks up on the fact that their tactics aren’t working, they’ll come up with some other way of achieving their goals. Don’t be fooled, this enigmatic behavior has an explanation: they’re selfish, egotistical and manipulative. Eventually, all conversation go back to them.
2. THEY REPEATEDLY MAKE DEMANDS
Another “gift” these types of manipulators have, is the ability to wear you down. You’ll hear them say over and over again, “what is best for you.”
They’ll make demands constantly about you and your life. Why? Because their ego convincingly assures them that their methods are superiour to yours. Do not allow this to occur in your life – it’s yours. Challenge them and their words, and don’t be afraid to refuse to participate in their mind games.
3. THEY USE PERSUASION AS A TOOL
This one relates to the previous. Manipulators of this type have a passion for the mage of persuasion. And, it doesn’t even matter if they are effective, they simply love the game. They want to see if they can get you to be their puppet.
Persuasion and pressure can be powerful weapons, especially when the victim lacks the ability to discern when they are being toyed with. Also, people who have difficulty telling others “no” can find themselves victims (sometimes knowingly) to this method of persuasion.
4. THEY MAKE ABNORMAL EYE CONTACT
And they’re body language is off as well.
While there are some people who have anxiety issues and find it difficult to make eye contact, they are not the ones we are discussing here. Besides, your intuition will guide you strongly when dealing with that type of situation.
To many of us, a steady and confident look indicates trustworthiness. Fake “nice” people understand this psychological effect – and, of course, us it to their advantage.
Then there’s the opposite side of the spectrum. Forced (i.e. “long and uncomfortable”) eye contact from the manipulator often indicates a concealed purpose; more specifically, to make someone else do what they want. Pay attention to these patterns.
Remember that you do have control over these types of situations in your life and you can say no to manipulators.
By GKT for MysticalRaven.com