If you have fallen in love with a person who is constantly overthinking, you are in love with a person whose mind can never stop playing games on them.
Have you ever fallen in love with a person who is constantly overthinking? Someone who always has a million unanswered questions on their mind. Someone who starts obsessing over the tiniest of details. Someone who can’t stop decoding every single word that you utter. Someone who tries to find meaning in every action you perform. Someone who uses their mind to process one thing at a time, and then gets overwhelmed with all the question marks and what if’s that surround a certain situation.
If you have fallen in love with a person who is constantly overthinking, you are in love with a person whose mind can never stop playing games on them. You are in love with a person who just can’t help but think the way they do. Someone who can’t possibly control how much they think and what they think about.
If you have fallen in love with a person who overthinks, you need to stay extremely confident and sure about your relationship at all times. And you need to make sure they feel the same way. You need to stay one step ahead of them at all times, and ensure that their mind doesn’t begin to spin with doubts about their own self, doubts about you, or doubts about this entire relationship. You need to make sure they don’t start hating themselves. You need to make sure they don’t begin making decisions that they might regret later. You need to assert the fact that you will always be here for them, through your actions and not just your words.
You need to stay kind and compassionate. You need to understand if they ever start to question you about your past, about the people you hang out with, or even about where you were last night. Understand when their heart starts to get flooded with anxiety and fear even when things are going perfectly well between you two. Understand when they start to believe that everything around them is completely horrible, even in the times when you think they are going great.
So you need to be empathic. You need to remind them that you aren’t ever going to judge them for anything they do or anything they say to you. Even when they ask you if you love them for the hundredth time in a day, you need to reply with an honest yes without getting annoyed. You need to remind them that you aren’t going anywhere when they start to discuss their fears and doubts. You need to remind them that you will always continue to love them no matter how obsessive they get, no matter how much they overthink, and no matter how many questions they ask you.
You need to perfect your style of communication. You need to stop replying to all their texts with a single word or short phrase. You need to pick up their calls or at least remember to call them back if you’re busy. You need to constantly tell them about everything you truly feel, without playing any ego wars. An over-thinker will keep trying to find some kind of meaning in everything you do and everything you say, so it’s best if you’re always upfront and truthful with them, no matter how difficult it may seem.
You need to have the ability to make them snap out of the frenzy their mind creates. You need to have the ability to calm them down, to let them know that “everything is going to be alright” or “I promise all of my friends really liked you” or “my parents have absolutely nothing against you.”
If you have fallen in love with a person who is constantly overthinking, stay prepared to constantly have yourself analyzed. Stay prepared to have an answer for absolutely anything in the world. Stay prepared to experience some difficult conversations.
If you have fallen in love with a person who is constantly overthinking, make sure you stay loving. This might feel like a challenge at first, but doesn’t every relationship in the world eventually become a challenge? A person who constantly overthinks might drive you a bit crazy at times but at the end of the day, they will love you like no other.
They will love you endlessly for putting up with all their obsessions. For understanding all of their troubles and fears. For never judging them on the things that cross their mind. And for making you feel like you might not be as crazy as you always thought.