If you’re single and can’t wrap your head around the fact as to why you’re single…
Before I continue on with my statement, let’s all just admit that not everything a woman does is to attract a man. With that being said, sometimes you do want people to notice you and to think that all that time you put into making yourself look pretty actually paid off.
However, if you’re the type of person who knows that they look good (not in an arrogant, ‘in your face’ sort of way), but that’s never noticed, then you’re bound to feel like it’s you who’s doing something wrong. If you are that type of person, YOU NEED TO KEEP ON READING.
Over a period of time, we have slowly formed judgments over the physical or apparent features of a person. This is how society works, I believe it is natural and you can’t really do anything about it, but it is, undoubtedly, sad. We are judgmental over sexes, races and over something that people say.
People often stereotype attractive women in so many ways that the whole glitz and glam of being gorgeous is completely ruined. They’re thought of as snobs or dumb people, And for what reason? Does no one pamper themselves? What if she just uses better moisturizer than other people? How is she to blame for that? What completely baffles me about the whole situation is how society complains on people who aren’t perceived as good-looking and also complains on the ones who are! There’s literally nowhere to go in the entire situation.
I believe in judging people one on one and not associating those judgments on a similar person we come across, there is no harm in being careful but basing your actions over those judgments is unfair with them. They might be really nice, but you wouldn’t know that because you aren’t giving them a chance. You’re just going on a whim and accessing them from someone who was a total as*hole. Who just happened to share another trait with them?
Remember, the entire world’s population used to think that the earth was a flat piece of land and that anyone who tried to go too far would tip over the edge and fall to their death. Now, obviously it made no sense or perhaps because we aren’t living in that time anymore, we don’t see it that way. Where would one possibly fall off to? It wasn’t till a brave man decided to go against the whole world, literally, and find things out on his own. It surely takes guts to go against the popular belief but those who do will always be the ones to enlighten others.
Same, I would say, is the case with attractive or, as we say, hotter women. There are so many apprehension based judgments formed and reinforced that we have started to take them as the factual truth which has in turn, left them being single. Here are just a few of the reasons why:
ATTRACTIVE WOMEN ARE ASSUMED TO BE COMMITTED ALWAYS
‘Her? You’re seriously thinking of asking her out? Look at her!’
Because we see that a person is attractive, we naturally assume that they might as well be in a committed relationship. People often don’t even bother simply because they know that they’ll be rejected. Maybe, yes.
Yes, they might be rejected let’s not eliminate the possibility of an attractive girl actually being in a relationship and saying no or just simply saying no because she wants to. However, simply assuming that they’ll say no is wrong.
Wrong to our own self-esteem and wrong to theirs. An attractive woman is significantly less likely to be asked out. Even though you’d expect them to be the first ones to get asked out. People just don’t think that they should bother.
You’re on a night out in the town. You might not really be expecting it, but you’re sort of hoping for the guy who has been looking over in your direction for quite some time now to come over and talk to you. Yet, he never does.
Basically, it’s our assumptions and judgments of certain stereotypes which drive us away from pursuing an attractive woman. Just because a woman has a got physique or attractive features doesn’t make her committed by default.
Attraction is so much more than having perfect features. Every human is attractive in one way or another. You see yourself in the mirror and get use to your curves and your facial expression that you under rate yourself. It isn’t necessarily a fact that a hot bombshell will just blow you away if you ask her out. She might have had her fair share of playboys and conniving cheaters and she would be just waiting for a guy like you who would look beyond her fancy exterior.
Sometimes, being single is a choice for a single women because she enjoys not being committed to another person. She is a free soul that doesn’t like commitment. There are lots of scenarios that may pan out but you’ll never find out if you ask her out and find the answers yourself.
ATTRACTIVE WOMEN ARE CONSIDERED AS SNOBBISH OR PICKY
Attractive women are thought to only go out or consider going out with people equally as attractive as them. The problem with society is that we see two people with varying physical appearances in a relationship as a ‘mismatched’ couple. This thinking has carried on for so long that young people think it’s only plausible to date someone who’s on the same scale of attractiveness as them.
Thankfully, not everyone thinks like this. However, quite a lot of people do. This can prove to be incredibly devastating to a person’s self-esteem. They’re basically being told to back away before even getting a chance.
Furthermore, an attractive woman isn’t going to simply reject someone because they aren’t exactly as attractive as them. Shallow people might exist, and these shallow people might just be attractive women. The truth is that not everyone has to be a snob simply because they’re attractive, it depends on their mentality.
The way a person thinks about them and their relationship with the surroundings influences them as a person. If you’re an arrogant person, it wouldn’t matter how the world perceives you on attractiveness, you’d just think that you’re better either way. While I must admit that having some self-confidence isn’t a bad thing (at all) but the fact is that there’s a certain limit to everything.
Have you ever thought maybe that a really attractive woman is more into intelligent men or someone who is more adventurous and spontaneous? Not that good-looking men aren’t all that but what I mean is, even if you aren’t good looking as per the idealistic rules of society, you are still a great human being and that matters more.
‘’Looks can tell a lot about a person’’.
That is the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard in my life. Looks don’t make up a person. What he or she holds in inside is what makes them. What they have faced throughout their life, that’s what carves their personality and etches idiosyncrasies in their personality.
Sure, there is a bigger possibility of a person being narcissistic or egoistic if they are hotter but it’s not an obligation. I’ve met with a lot of single hotter women who are actually really nice and have a very optimistic approach towards life. They care more and love more. We should get these stereotypes of our head and actually give everyone an open chance to be nice. Sometimes people just become nice because they are expected to be and sometimes they just act evil or distant because that’s what the society expects them to be.
This is a masquerade and every one of us wears it. You and me, all of us, but that’s not who we are. These are just our defensive barriers that we have put forth to shield our vulnerability. You can only know about a person when you truly get to know them by spending time with them and actually getting to know them.
ATTRACTIVE WOMEN SUBCONSCIOUSLY FEEL LIKE THEY SHOULD BE DATING HOTTER MEN
Nobody wants to be a misfit in the society and anyone who defies the societal rules is a misfit. It takes a lot of courage to not let things people say, affect you. Things like, ‘what is a babe like her doing with a loser like him, I am sure he is pretty rich’. These things might seem easier to deal with but in reality, small things people say get to you. For such things not to affect either one of the partners, it is highly important that both develop good communication and a habit of making efforts to appreciate each other.
Attractive women are more or less pressured into dating someone whom society can deem as ‘acceptable’. It’s like Ken and Barbie. The reason why Barbie has to date Ken, even if she might like the socially awkward engineer Jim (literally every teenage romantic comedy), is because that seems more reasonable to people.
We judge on appearances so much that we actually developed our instincts to work like that too. Despite anything, if a celebrity isn’t attractive, they won’t get as much fame as an attractive celebrity. The tabloids would rip them to shreds if they date someone for personality instead of looks (as everyone should).
We think this is all well and fun because we’ve never actually thought of it seriously enough. Subconsciously, an attractive woman will feel like if she doesn’t date her Ken then people might turn away from her.
Besides the fact that they feel like it’s their obligation to date people equally as good-looking as them, they’re also supposed to dress and apply makeup a certain way or else you’ll, apparently, lose your appeal. People just need a reason to bring each other down. It’s what they have to make them feel good about them.
I genuinely hate the term ‘rebellious’ when it’s used for women who refuse to follow society’s norms. If a model says she doesn’t want to wear heels because her feet hurt, fine take her off of the projects which requires her to wear heels. However, don’t blacklist her.
This society has expectations from every one of us. Let me tell you that you don’t have to fulfill the expectations of anyone. You should just embrace your originality and be okay with it because when you truly accept yourself, this whole world won’t be able to break you. Single women face the same troubles as us.
They walk in the same world as us but they are coerced to have this state of mind that if they do not do what the society likes, they will never fit in. Everyone is trying to fit in. No one is trying to do what he or she wants. It’s understandable. Sometimes the pressures of this society can get the better of us.
However, we have to believe that love transcend the color someone’s sin or his sharp facial features. Love is when two heartbeats synchronize and accept each other for who they are despite their imperfections. That’s what true love is eventually.
ATTRACTIVE WOMEN HAVE TRUST ISSUES
These trust issues stem from the treatment they take as attractive women. It’s upsetting how women aren’t allowed to look a certain way because of fear or judgment. It’s not their fault. Men who actually do approach attractive women are only compelled to do so because of how they look. No one cares about the personality at all anymore.
They can’t help it. Most attractive women are approached by men too full of themselves trying to get only one thing from them. They act like complete douchebags at times and leave once they have slept with them. Such women remain apprehensive and are constantly judging the intentions of their partners which often lead to fights and mistrust, eventually breaking the relationship. Thus, many attractive women prefer to remain single than getting heart-broken or used again and again.
They’re seen as objects instead of actual, living, breathing people who can just as much be influenced by things, if not more. The stereotypes have gone on for far too long now. It’s time to stop judging people based solely on first glances. How would you feel if someone comes up to you and just assumes that you’re dumb because you’re blonde? It feels fine when we’re the ones who are stereotyping, but trust me when I say that it isn’t as fun when it’s on us.
Everyone has a past that has scarred them and life isn’t fair to anyone. Even the hottest women in the world get hurt. Some celebrities have gone through worse in their life than normal individuals. This is because they are facing something that is not visible to the naked eye. Single women are just humans.
They might have faced something in their past that might have forced them close the doors to true love. They might have made up their mind that maybe that love isn’t worth all the hassle and they just want someone to prove them wrong but whenever someone like that comes along, he shatters all their hopes.
It all comes down to how badly we find the need to break these societal rules, norms and perceptions and see beyond them. Life and specifically, relationships are a lot easier when you free yourself from these.
The bottom line is that no one should lose their confidence because of what others say or think. An attractive woman shouldn’t feel like she’s being treated differently because of how she looks. She should appreciate what she has and not give a second thought to what anyone else says or thinks about her because at the end of the day, it’s her life to live and no one else’s. People will say whatever they feel like saying.
Things will be said about you even if you did nothing wrong (as in most cases). The only thing you can do is not let any of that get to you. Don’t let it change you or make you doubt yourself. It’s a completely different thing if you’re in the wrong; however, if you’re not then you shouldn’t be the one to change.