Right now, people are spending a lot more time with the ones they love. That means a few masks are falling off.
Sometimes it really isn’t us who is the problem. If you’re being made to feel like you’re the crazy one, or that your thoughts aren’t making sense, you might be with a toxic partner. Here’s the eventuality of ending up with a narcissist, and the sneakiest ways they will hurt you.
1 They destroy your confidence.
One of the most common ways narcissists do this is by building you up with praise only to criticize you or treat you like crap to tear you down. They know how to build you up and break you down so that you depend on them and it’s only a matter of time before your feelings of confidence and self-worth take all the punches.
2 They react in unstable ways.
You never know what your partner is going to do, and even trying to predict their mood and behavior would require the use of a mood ring and psychic. This is their way of keeping you on your toes so you don’t know what to expect and they stay in control. All that anxiety just isn’t worth it.
3 They make you feel guilt even if you did nothing wrong.
If you trust the person and they keep telling you that you were wrong and you made them say those horrible things to you, soon enough you’re going to start to feel guilty or even wonder if you’re a bad person. You’re not! They are, and this is all part of their sick gaslighting attempt to control you.
4 They constantly make you feel confused.
When you first meet a narcissist, they try to charm the pants off you. This is how they worm their way into your life and heart. After a while, they’ll change and you’ll be left spinning, wondering what happened. They want you to be unsettled, but imagine what it’s doing to your feelings of well-being. Yup, totally trashing them.
5 They remind you how unimportant they think you are.
A narcissist makes it clear through their actions that they’re selfish. They dominate conversations and make themselves the center of attention no matter what, even when you have a really funny story about what happened on the train to tell them. After a while, this behavior can make you feel like you just don’t matter. Ever. The relationship is completely one-sided.
6 They are always putting you down, to lift themselves up.
The sick thing about narcissists is that they want to hurt you. When you’re down, they get a kick out of it. It makes them feel super powerful. When they put you down, they’ll act as though it was just a joke, which further makes you feel down and unsure of what’s going on.
7 They destroy any sense of self-worth.
There’s nothing more stressful than dating a narcissist. They are desperate for attention and will pull you away from something important just so that they get validation that they’re the most important person in your life. Ugh. After a while of getting “urgent” calls at two in the morning, you’ll feel pulled from both ends and totally exhausted at having to deal with them. Who needs this stress?
You are better off without this person in your life. Right now is a good time to focus on what is best for you and your happiness. Remember, stress and anxiety can reduce the body’s immune system, so improve your health by getting rid of the trash.