Someday someone is going to look at you with a light in their eyes you’ve never seen. They’ll look at you like you’re everything they’ve been looking for their entire lives. Wait for that.
We all long for love, closeness, and affection. It’s just human nature, so even if sometimes we’re not getting the type of love that we truly deserve, we settle. We settle and comply with less than our hearts are worth because we believe that a smidgen of tenderness is better than none.
The truth is, it’s not. You don’t need someone to fulfill your heart, you need the right person to share your loving heart with. There’s a difference.
Yes, nobody wants to be alone but when you settle for the wrong type of love, down the line you’ll feel even more alone than you were in the first place. And even worse, you’ll feel like you’ve betrayed your soul.
If you choose to settle for less than what your heart desires, you’ll end up feeling like you’ve given yourself away blindly for nothing. And that’s because you were trying to fill a void that only your self-love can fulfill.
You don’t need someone to validate you or make you happy, you need to love yourself first and then learn to identify who’s truly worthy of your heart. You can’t put your happiness on someone else’s hands, you can’t waste your energy on someone who’s barely trying to be deserving of your love and affection.
Being single is much better because at the end of the day, you know you’re spending your energy on nurturing your soul and not on someone who doesn’t appreciate you fully.
Yes, you won’t always know if the person that you choose to love will be worthy of you. If you come to the harsh realization that you’re putting up with his half ass love, it might be hard to let go because you’ve had already invested so much on him. The thought of staying alone is scary but the honest truth is that it should be a lot scarier to deny yourself of what you’re worth.
Being single allows you to find out who you really are. When you truly focus on yourself you become much stronger, confident and resilient. And then you’ll realize that you can wait for the guy who is excited to spend time with you. Someone who’s your equal and will truly appreciate all of you and want to grow with you.
Deep down you know what your value is and what your needs are. Don’t sabotage your own happiness by allowing crappy people into your life. You should never be someone’s second best.
Never apologize for your ability to love intensely and deeply and for expecting the same in return. Anything less should not be acceptable for you.