How to Love a Woman Who Doesn’t Know How to Be Loved

There are some women out there who just don’t know how to be loved. They are guarded, busy women who are very much hidden within themselves. But just because these women don’t know how to be loved, doesn’t mean that they are not worth being loved. There is so much love and potential there that is just waiting to be coaxed out.

Here are some tips for learning how to love a woman who doesn’t know how to be loved:

Be Patient

She has walls up to guard herself. Despite how wonderful and dedicated you are, those walls WILL take time to come down. Don’t try to rush her into anything. Take the pace slower than you would normally think. She’s worth waiting for, and trying to push things may make her bolt or build those walls up even more.


For a girl who spends most of her time in her own head, it can be pretty overwhelming to try to step outside herself and share her thoughts with others. If you let her know that you’re interested in what she feels and thinks, she’ll start to feel comfortable and safe with you. She needs to know that her thoughts have value, because she is valuable. Don’t put judgment on what she says and allow her to share herself fully without condemnation. Every person is wonderfully unique and lovely, and by conversing with her, you’re showing her that.

Support Her

She has aspirations, dreams, and goals, but she’s not sure that you’re willing to stick by her and encourage her through them. Allow her to dream and tell you about those dreams without the threat of you crushing them. If she mentions a dream of hers, bring it up at a later date in a way that lets her know that you remember it, support her in it, and are willing to give her the encouragement she needs. That also means giving her the space and time she needs to fulfill those dreams.

Don’t Fall For The “You Complete Me” Thing

You don’t want to be two halves of a whole, because she shouldn’t need you to complete her. She is a whole, beautiful, interesting person on her own (just like you are a whole, admirable, interesting person on your own). Rather than needing each other to make one complete being, you should each be whole individuals that, together, are simply awesome.

This girl has a whole lot of love to give. She is worth the time and effort to uncover her heart, because when she gives you her heart wholly…wow. You’re really going to want all of that passion and loyalty on your team.