Why You’ll Never Deserve A Second Chance From Me


You may be wondering why there aren’t second chances for some people when it comes to relationships.

Here you are, knocking on my door, pleading and begging for another chance. You tell me things will be different, that you’ve changed, and that you are ready now.

But I have some questions. Why now?  Did spending time in another woman’s arms help you realize that no one can comfort you the way I did? Did you have to spend time with another to realize no one could love you like I did?

Now, you want a second chance because you didn’t realize how much you cared until I was gone for good. My absence made you miss me, and now you want me back. You want us back, but it’s a little too late for that.

Remember all the times I waited, but you never came. Or all those text messages that you read but never responded to. What about all those times I needed you, but you were too busy for me? Do you know how many sleepless nights I endured because you made me feel like I wasn’t good enough and took me for granted?

But now, you’re asking for a second chance.

Well, here’s my simple answer: No, you don’t deserve a second chance.

It shouldn’t take losing me for you to realize that I matter. It shouldn’t take moving on for you to finally see my worth. You should have realized how much I matter and how worthy I am the first time around.

Giving you another chance would be like handing you a bow and an arrow, so that you could pierce my heart once again. You hurt me enough the first time; I won’t let you do it again. You are a risk I am not willing to take.

No, you don’t get a second chance.

I gave you hundreds of chances every time you left me hanging, and you never delivered. You broke thousands of promises. Every time, I gave you the chance to make things right, but you never did.

I waited patiently for things to work out for us, but nothing ever changed. I gave you everything, but all you did was take. You left me feeling empty and broken, yet for you everything was fine. I gave up too much of myself, but I won’t do that again.

No, I can’t give you a second chance.

I don’t let people into my life easily, nor do I let them go without a fight. When I love someone, I hold on for as long as I can. Once I let go, though, I let go for good. I tried to hold on to you, but you slipped through my fingers, leaving them bruised and covered in blood. Once my hands lost all their strength, I had to let you go.

I’ve learned that not everyone deserves my love, and those who hurt me definitely don’t deserve a place in my heart. I still love and care about you, but this time, I must listen to my heart.

I must say no to your request, because you’ll never deserve another chance.

Yes, we’re all imperfect humans who make mistakes, and we often deserve second chances. However, I don’t give these chances to people who broke my trust and my heart. It’s never worked out before, and I know it won’t work this time, either.

You lost my trust, and without trust, a relationship means nothing. Nothing you say will change my feelings. There’s nothing you can do to change my mind. You had your chance to be a part of my life, and you messed it up. I’m not going to keep giving you do-overs. I don’t have the time for that. I’ve moved on, and so should you.

My heart is not a revolving door for you to come and go as you please. I opened my heart to you, but you didn’t appreciate my love. You left, and when you left I locked the door behind you. I threw the key into the ocean so it could never be found again.

You’re no longer welcome in my home or in my heart. You don’t belong here. I deserve more than your empty promises. Please, turn around and leave.

So, quit begging me for a second chance. You don’t deserve it.

Written By Mitzi J Hernandez for Unwritten