(In this article we use “he” as the example, but women are just as capable of committing these relationship atrocities.)
Don’t allow yourself to be the victim in this scenario. He isn’t as innocent as he makes it out to be. He is a vile and sadistic human being and he is out for your blood. He smells your weakness and vulnerability; and he is going to do what he can to take advantage of you.
While you always try your best to maintain an optimistic view of people, there are just some men out there who are downright terrible. They are the ones who wouldn’t hesitate to victimize you at the earliest chance. These are the men who understand how feelings and emotions work – and they never shy away from using their knowledge to their advantage; even when it comes at the expense of other people.
And the worst part is that you don’t even realize that they are doing these terrible things to you on purpose. But there’s no mistaking it. They take a very systematic and methodical approach to tormenting you. There’s nothing accidental about it.
They want you to suffer and they’re going to do whatever it takes to get ahead while you get left behind. Sometimes, these kinds of mend o it just for fn. Sometimes, they do it for selfish reasons. And sometimes, they just do it because they get a kick out of victimizing other people. Whatever the case, you have to make sure that you never play the victim. You always have to keep yourself guarded.
The moment that you find yourself in a relationship with an emotionally sadistic individual, you have to put an end to things right away. You can’t allow him to prolong your agony. You can’t let him take control of your feelings and emotions. You can’t let him torment you any further. So if you notice that a lot of these signs apply to your man and your relationship, run away as fast as you can.
1. He continues to treat you poorly even after you’ve called him out on it.
He doesn’t stop. It’s as if his bad behavior is an immovable constant in your relationship that you’re just going to have to learn to deal with.
2. He constantly tests how gullible you might be by patronizing you.
He will try to push the limits of how far you’re willing to go for him. And he will do this by patronizing you and flattering you to the point that you become weak to his advances. He will make it seem like he is smitten by you even though he’s only trying to see just how much you’re going to believe from what he tells you.
3. He only ever really straightens up his act whenever you threaten to leave him.
He only ever really fixes himself when he feels like he’s starting to lose you. Whenever he feels like you are about to slip from his grasp, he is going to tighten his hold on you by fixing up his act. And then the process repeats itself over and over.
4. He subtly makes you feel that you’re just not good enough to be with him.
He will drop a few bad comments here and there to make you think that you’re not good enough for him. This is his passive-aggressive way of telling you that you need to try harder if you want to be with him. He’s trying to make you feel like he’s doing you a favor by still staying with you.
5. He is only ever really nice to you whenever he wants something.
He is only ever nice to you when he needs something from you. You can tell that his niceness is never born out of a place of pure intentions. There is always an ulterior motive when it comes to him. he always has some secret agenda that he’s hiding from you.
6. He has no real emotional attachment towards you.
He doesn’t really make an effort to connect with you on an emotional level. It’s s if he’s only really interested in the physical pleasures and benefits that he can derive from your relationship – if you can even call it that.
7. He always sends you mixed signals.
He is never consistent with you. One minute, he’s really hot and sweet. On the next minute, he becomes immensely cold and distant. You never feel like you can find stability and consistency with him. He’s awlays going to be wishy-washy when it comes to dealing with you and your relationship.
8. Your instincts are telling you that something is up.
Learn to trust your gut. If your instincts are telling you that something is off, then it’s probably because something really is wrong. Your subconscious has a way of looking out for you even when you’re not looking out for yourself. So just learn to pay attention whenever it’s trying to tell you something.