For centuries, most women have been asking what personality and behavior traits are found to be most attractive and irresistible for men. There are explanations as there are men in the world. However, any man is trying to find that one special woman who will become his soulmate.
In this article, we will represent you with the two types of women found to be attractive to men. But these aren’t just our words, psychology has known this for years!
1. The Mother
According to psychologists, girls are looking for father-like men and boys are looking for mother-like women. These tendencies are deeply rooted into our subconscious and linked to our perception for home environment. In other words, ideals of a perfect home are based on our childhood’s experiences, when we felt safe, contented, and happy.
The men feel attraction toward mother-like girlfriend because they want to be taken care of, loved unconditionally and feel safe and warm, having someone to cook for them and clean the house and, more importantly, to deliver healthy babies and nurture them to adulthood. This is actually more primitive human instinct, developed during a time when a human’s main missions in life were to survive and to perpetuate the species.
One article called “Why We Love Who We Love,” is was about how men are attracted to women like their mothers.
As the writer, Dr. Joyce Brothers, puts it:
Our mother’s characteristics leave an indelible impression, and we are forever after attracted to people with her facial features, body type, personality, even sense of humor. If our mother was warm and giving, as adults we tend to be attracted to people who are warm and giving. If our mother was strong and even-tempered, we are going to be attracted to a fair-minded strength in our mates. The mother has an additional influence on her sons: she not only gives them clues to what they will find attractive in a mate, but also affects how they feel about women in general. So if she is warm and nice, her sons are going to think that’s the way women are. They will likely grow up warm and responsive lovers and also be cooperative around the house. Conversely, a mother who has a depressive personality, and is sometimes friendly but then suddenly turns cold and rejecting, may raise a man who … has been so scared about love from his mother [that] he is afraid of commitment and may pull away from a girlfriend for this reason.
2. The Friend
The quest for finding the perfect mate doesn’t always include beauty and sex appeal. Men sometimes want somebody who can talk to or go to a football match with. Not all men want dolls, but a partner who can share their opinions and ideas with.
The key to a strong, healthy and long-lasting relationship is sharing the same personality traits. Being “the friend“doesn’t necessarily means that the intimate part of your relationship will suffer, but it may only make you even closer and ready to enjoy that newfound closeness and spend unforgettable moments together.
Dr. John Gottman, marriage expert and author of Why Marriages Succeed or Fail, would say that, yes, it is natural for your to think of your spouse as your best friend—it’s really very important for your marriage, in fact. According to Gottman, deep friendship is the foundation of a happy marriage. In his book, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, Gottman explains what this friendship should look like:
“[It consists of] mutual respect and enjoyment of each other’s company. They tend to know each other intimately—they are well versed in each other’s likes, dislikes, personality quirks, hopes and dreams. They have an abiding regard for each other and express this fondness not just in the big ways but in little ways day in and day out.”