Ladies, the most important piece of advice you will ever be given is this: Listen to your gut.
There’s just no getting around it. Cheating sucks, but it happens. There are just so many inconsiderate people out there who can’t seem to stay loyal in their relationships. They can’t just break things off with the people they’re with now before embarking in third-party romantic relations No one ever wins in circumstances of infidelity. It’s just a really big mess that ends up hurting everyone involved in it. You would never want to be the victim of an unfaithful predator. If you’re in a relationship with someone who cheats on you, then you would definitely want to know about it. You wouldn’t want to be kept in the dark about your man’s infidelities. You would want to know bout his unfaithful activities so that you can call him out on it and leave him.
But that’s the thing. Most cheaters will cheat under the assumption that they would never get caught. They would never openly admit to you that they’re cheating on you. And that’s why it’s your job to stay vigilant. You would never want to be made a fool of. You would never want someone to be abusing and using you behind your back. You have to keep yourself guarded. You have to be on top of your game. And that all starts with knowing what you’re supposed to be looking for.
So how do you find out if your man really is cheating on you? You just have to keep an eye out for the signs. They might not be openly admitting the fact that they’re cheating on you. But they’re definitely leaving clues in the trail. You just have to sniff them out. Here are 10 signs he’s being unfaithful even if he says otherwise:
1. Your gut is telling you that something isn’t right.
Learn to really trust your instincts. Your gut is there for a reason. It’s there to look out for you. It’s there to make sure that no one screws you over or betrays you. Your gut is trying to help save you from impending heartache and disappointment. If it’s telling you that something is wrong, then it’s probably because something is definitely wrong.
2. There is a substantial shift in his behavior.
If he starts acting so different all of a sudden especially in his treatment towards you, then you know that something is up. If he’s acting super nice towards you, then it could be because he’s guilty and he’s trying to compensate by being excessively nice. If he’s acting rude towards you, then it’s probably because he’s losing that connection with you and seeking it elsewhere.
3. He doesn’t make you feel like you can trust him.
Trust is more than just a feeling. It’s a connection between two people. And if you feel like that connection is faltering somehow, then it’s certainly happening for a reason.
4. He becomes much more protective of his phone and his computer.
He has a bunch of his messages with his outside beau on his phone and his computer. So of course he wouldn’t want to give you access to it. He’s trying to cover his tracks the best way he can. He knows that all of the evidence can be found on his communication device and he doesn’t want to lead you right to the proof of his infidelity.
5. His alibis and stories just don’t add up.
His stories just don’t add up. He contradicts himself with his stories and his alibis. The dates, times, settings, and other little details just don’t add up at all. They are all very inconsistent and he’s starting to get confused in the web of lies that he’s weaving for himself.
6. He acts uncharacteristically busy all of a sudden.
If he suddenly has less and less time to spend with you even though you know that nothing major is going on at his place of work, then he’s likely cheating on you. HE’s just looking for an excuse to spend less time with you and more time to spend with his mistresses.
7. He seeks out random arguments with you to make you feel bad.
He’s deeply guilty about what he’s doing to you and so he wants to level out the playing field. He will make you feel bad and call you out on even the slightest mistake that you make. He will blow things out of proportion and make you feel like you’re the most terrible girlfriend on the face of this earth.
8. He will gaslight the hell out of you.
Whenever you confront him about his infidelity, he will find a way to make it seem like you’re crazy and irrational. He will make you believe that you are the one who is at fault or that you’re merely imagining things. He will make you think that you’re the one who is jeopardizing the relationship with all of your accusations.