Narcissism is often interpreted in popular culture as a person who’s in love with him or herself. It is more accurate to characterize the pathological narcissist as someone who’s in love with an idealized self-image, which they project in order to avoid feeling (and being seen as) the real, disenfranchised, wounded self. Deep down, most pathological narcissists feel like the “ugly duckling,” even if they painfully don’t want to admit it.
Narcissists frequently employ a variety of deceits in order to get what they want. Since, deep down, they don’t believe their real selves are worthy, scheming and manipulation are resorted to in order to succeed.
Here are 30 lies narcissists use in relationships. How many of these have you heard?
1- I know we’ve not been together long but we really should get married.
2- Of course I will go and see somebody for some help, I want to do the right thing for us.
3- I will pay you back.
4- I will never hurt you.
5- I will never hurt you again.
6- I can’t wait to take you away somewhere exotic.
7- I promise I will call you tomorrow.
8- I won’t tell a soul about this.
9- We have such a bright future together.
10- I can see us growing old together.
11- I cannot wait until we start a family.
12- Of course I will help you out when you start your new job.
13- We should make plans to travel the world, just you and me.
14- Let’s look at houses so we can move in and live together.
15- I will always be on hand, whenever you need me.
16- I cannot imagine a day where we are not with one another.
17- I won’t let anything come between you and I.
18- No matter how ill you become, I will look after you.
19- I swear we will do that, just as soon as we can afford it.
20- Of course we will go there next time.
21- Whatever you want, just say it next time we are here.
22- I want to be able to come home every night and find you there waiting for me.
23- Just do it this once and I won’t ask you to do it again.
24- Of course I will change, I am determined to do it.
25- This is the last time, I promise, then I will stop.
26- I will seek some help, now isn’t the right time, but I will do it.
27- I will give you the world.
28- I will give you the fairy tale you deserve.
29- I know we will have a happy ever after.
30- Of course I will respect you in the morning.