If you want to stop attracting the wrong kind of people, and start attracting those who fit your vibe- who ‘just get you’, read on:
There comes a point in every person’s life wherein we take a long hard look at the kind of individuals we choose to surround ourselves with. It happens to everyone. We slowly start to discover that our lives are heavily influenced by the people we choose to associate ourselves with.
And while our lives aren’t ultimately defined by our relationships; there’s no denying that our relationships play a huge role in shaping us as individuals as well. That’s why it’s absolutely important that you make it a point to only attract the right kind of people in your life – if you’re truly invested in looking out for yourself. And it’s not really as hard as some people make it out to be. A few tweaks and changes to your habits can encourage the best kind of people to walk into your life. You don’t always have to settle for surrounding yourself with losers because it’s easy and convenient to do so. If you want to be attracting a better breed of people, then you need to be turning yourself into a better breed of human as well.
You essentially attract the kind of people who are most similar to yourself. So if you only want to get into relationships with quality people, you have to make sure that you are a quality person as a prerequisite. It’s not a magical or a spiritual phenomenon. It’s social science. We only ever really make ourselves emotionally available to the people we’re familiar with. However, that doesn’t mean you have to force yourself to be someone you’re not comfortable with being. You just have to make sure that you rid yourself of any controllable bad habits that you may have; and always present yourself in the best light that you possibly can.
If you’re looking for some simple changes that you can make in your life to attract the right kind of people, then finish reading the rest of this article:
1. Learn to say no.
You don’t always have to be entertaining the people who just serve as dead weight to your life. It’s okay for you to say no to some people. Don’t feel guilty about cutting ties and burning bridges with the people who are just holding you back. The key to attracting better people is detoxifying the circle you’re in.
2. Be more appreciative of the things that add value to your life.
Learn to show more gratitude and appreciation for the things in life that are most important to you. And once you do that, you will create an invisible gravitational force around you that will only attract the things that you are most grateful for.
3. Don’t be afraid to step outside of your comfort zone.
You have to understand that sometimes, the key to finding a better class of people is by stepping outside of your comfort zone. You have to be willing to immerse yourself in unfamiliar situations if you want a change in your social life.
4. Never lie to yourself.
Don’t lie to yourself and think that there’s nothing about you to improve or work on anymore. Be humble and recognize that there are always going to be some bad traits within you – and these traits may be brought about or triggered by your choice of company.
5. Don’t be afraid to take the initiative with starting a relationship.
You don’t always have to take a passive approach to relationships. If you just wait for the “right” kind of people to come into your life, you will be waiting a long time. Take an active role and just put yourself out there. Make an effort to actually bring yourself closer to the people you seek to be with.
6. Don’t grow dependent on substances to help loosen you up and make you more sociable.
Sure, alcohol can help make you more sociable. But it would be a shame for you to have to be drunk every time you want to get someone to like you. Stop leaning on alcohol to help make you a more amiable person. Start relying on yourself.
7. Expose yourself to different kinds of people and topics.
If you want to be able to attract more kinds of people, you need to expose yourself to different points of view and different topics. Not to say that you should be an expert at everything, but it would serve you well to be able to keep up in a conversation about anything.
8. Be open-minded.
The only way you could ever attract better people in your life is if you remain open-minded. Remember that being open-minded means opening yourself up to new experiences. Sometimes, these experiences can be bad, but if you approach them correctly, they always end up good.