Embracing yourself and loving yourself for who you are is one of the easiest things you can say, yet it’s so hard to actually do.
Throughout this list, we will be going over every basic step you can take towards learning to love yourself more. We know that confidence can’t just sprout up overnight, but with the right foundation, we know that you can take a first step in the right direction towards the change you want to make in your life. From learning to just laugh more when life puts you in a bad situation that you can’t fix, to connecting more with everyone around you and making sure that connection has room to grow, to even just starting fresh and having a blank slate to start the life you want to live.
We shouldn’t have to feel like we need to stay in our lane when it comes to our happiness, we deserve to do what we want when we want to because our happiness comes first. As long as you aren’t being toxic, then live your life and hopefully, this list will encourage you to take that self-love to the next level. Don’t be afraid to be yourself and really push yourself out of your comfort zone, you deserve to feel that support and excitement of not holding yourself back. We all have our own flaws and issues to work on, but at the end of the day when you put effort towards something there will be a change if you want it to happen, no matter how big or small it will make a difference.
15. Laugh More
Learning to laugh more might be easier said than done, but it’s worth it. Even when you wake up in the morning if you just take a second to laugh and smile in the mirror, even though it might come off crazy, it does really help. You release endorphins when you laugh and just let it go, it’s worth it trust me. This is first on the list because it’s something you can do right now! You can just laugh at nothing and honestly see how you feel after. Sorry we don’t have any jokes you can read, but if you just try it, even laughing at yourself to keep it going can be beneficial. It’s healthy to laugh, so get going! Try doing this every once and awhile especially when you’re starting to feel down about something before you know it, you’ll notice a difference and really see exactly just how good it will make your mood!
14. Don’t Compare
Don’t compare yourself to others, not even for a second. We live in a society where so many people are constantly thriving on making people feel bad about their appearance and how they feel so they can make a profit on people who want to make themselves fit in, even if that’s not what’s healthy. Comparing yourself just sets you up for a toxic environment that isn’t helpful whatsoever. Comparing ourselves to the celebrities that are constantly in the news and the individuals who are always showing off their bodies, it can quickly become admiration to just toxic and hurtful towards how you feel about yourself. Take a week or even just a weekend to shut yourself off from social media, as much as you can. Stay away from the drama in the entertainment news and just focus on yourself. Pamper yourself and learn to love yourself the best you possibly can without any distractions.
13. Connect More
Connect more to everything, to yourself, to the people who support you, to everything you experience on a daily basis. When you connect to more people around you and really accept that there are people who support you in everything you do, it makes things seem at least a bit easier. Life is as hard as can be, especially in this day and age where everyone seems to be going off their rocker in the worst possible ways. If we connect a bit more maybe that will bring some understanding to us all not only for ourselves but also for those around us. Take the first step to being more connected by reaching out to those around you. Reach out to friends and family who you have drifted apart from, set up a coffee brunch where you can reconnect and come to an understanding. You shouldn’t let yourself feel ashamed for losing touch with someone, it happens to the best of us, just come to terms and accept the situation and make the best of it.
Acceptance is easy to just recommend, but putting that into action and actually applying that to your life is a lot harder than it seems. But it’s important to remember that at least taking the necessary steps are so important and can drastically change your life. To step towards the right direction of acceptance you need to come to terms with where you are in life and the goals you want to achieve. Accept yourself for who you are and come to an understanding that you can change whatever you want to about yourself, we’re always changing, there is nothing stopping us when it comes to the changes we want to make for ourselves. Remember that as you move through life, we’re never stagnate, we’re like a river, it’s never the same and always changes. Don’t give up simply because you’re in a place in your life where you aren’t fully happy.
11. Explore Your Style
Exploring your style can really be the change you need. Branching out of your comfort zone can be a major stress, but once you take the leap of faith and trust your gut, you’ll make it through and you’ll probably be so happy that you took that chance. Anything from trying a new fashion style you’ve always been afraid you couldn’t pull off, to even cutting your hair in a style that really makes you feel lighter and free! Exploring your style by spending a day trying on new clothes you would normally never pick out for yourself or treating yourself to get your hair done and nails, regardless of what you choose to do, you’ll learn from the experience and you’ll know more about yourself! Your style should be allowed to change when you want it to, you should never feel like you need to stay in a box of conformity just to keep others happy.
10. Don’t Put Others Down
Something that you can start right this second is to hold back when you start thinking something negative about someone else who you don’t even know. This can easily become a habit that’s toxic and not something that will help you grow into a better person in the long run, even if it makes you feel better in the short time after. From judging strangers that walk by you on the street to talking about gossip with a close friend, it can really bring a negative vibe to your life that just holds you back in the worst ways. This isn’t a healthy way to boost your self-esteem! When you constantly put others down, you’ll notice it makes you feel good for a moment, then you just feel so off and negative and it really does mess with your mood in a way that can affect your life in major ways. It’s just a series of events that could have been completely avoided!
9. Take Care Of Yourself
This might seem obvious, but taking care of yourself is something we usually tend to forget a lot of the time. Sometimes even just making time during the weekend to take a bubble bath or getting that new face scrub you’ve been wanting to splurge on can be totally worth it. You deserve to feel pampered and if you feel like you’re always stressed and worrying about everything, just take a moment to really take in a deep breath and let it out. Plan a day this week where you can have an evening to yourself and catch up on all the pampering you can, do something you love, and get a good night’s rest. You shouldn’t have to put your life on hold for other people every single waking moment. Taking care of yourself is simple if you just try, from drinking enough water to washing your face when you’re stressed, even the small things count.
8. Clean Up & Start Fresh
Taking the time to go through all of your things that you’ve been holding on to for years can be very therapeutic. Sometimes we just hold on to things without even thinking about why, making excuses like, you’ll use it someday, or feeling bad because someone gave it to you, no more! Often we find that when we fluctuate in weight sizes we always hold onto clothes that don’t even fit anymore, even if it’s been years. This is very unhealthy because it’s almost an automatic downer when you try to wear a piece of clothing that you know doesn’t fit when you could have just donated it in the first place. Clean your space and you’ll notice that your head is clearer as well. You’ll experience less stress and you’ll understand yourself better. Just start with one area of your life and once you get rolling, you’ll notice everything falling into place.
7. Let Go Of Mistakes
Letting go of the baggage in your life is never easy and it’s usually emotional and stressful, but if you really want to brighten up your life, then it’s necessary in most cases. Whether that’s closure with an ex-lover or talking to your parents who you haven’t been in contact with for years. No matter what the problem is that you’re addressing head on, you need to take the plunge and really use this time to move on from issues that have been emotionally holding you back. Letting go of mistakes even you make is something you should do as well. Even if that just means writing your heart out about all the regrets you have and then burning the paper to make those regret vanish, either way, it will be an experience that you’ll have for your whole life. Life is too short to hold onto all the negative in your life.
6. Do Something You love
Under the same theme of pampering yourself, doing something you love and making time in your schedule to do something that makes you happy should be a regular occurrence. Whether that’s taking the time to read a book you’ve been meaning to get around to, or planning a movie night at home with your pets, anything you want to do that makes you happy is worth it and should have some time in your schedule. No matter how busy we are on a daily basis, at some point we need to put ourselves first so we can embrace who we are and grow on that notion. Take time and plan something that will make you smile, even if that’s something like hanging out with friends or fixing yourself a cup of tea in the morning before going to work. What is something that brightens your day no matter when you do it?
5. Save Up & Go
While this isn’t something you can just do right this minute, but keeping in mind a goal you’d like to save up for, big or small, can give your life a little excitement. Really brainstorm what would make you happy and plan an experience you’ll work towards and you’ll always have that experience no matter where you go. Whether it’s a trip you want to go on or a purchase you want to make that you’ve been putting off. Just do it and relish in those experiences! Save up for a trip you’ve always wanted to use that experience to grow into a better persona develop yourself the best you can. You’ll never know what you’ll experience, but no matter what it is, make the most out of it. They usually say that traveling is the best way to learn more about yourself and the world around you, it’s true.
4. Start Something New
Starting something new might seem scary at first. You don’t know what you should do, you don’t want to face new individuals, and you don’t want to deal with criticism. We’ve all been there. But by forcing yourself to get out of your comfort zone, not only are you building your life skills, you’re also building that connection with yourself that will motivate you to do everything you want to in the future. Start small, such as going out to eat by yourself, or going to the movies alone. Then work up to bigger things like signing up for a class on a new hobby you’re interested in, or possibly going to look into volunteer opportunities that may be offered in your area. Starting something new doesn’t have to be scary, it can be quite easy and sometimes fun if you really put your mind to it. Don’t give up!
3. Face Your Fears
When we face our fears head on you’ll notice right away that you have different perspectives and it shows you how to be more open with more than just your fears. When you face your fears you’re being put in a situation where you will overcome these issue right in front of you and you’ll be able to say to yourself that you can do anything you set your mind to. When you form this kind of healthy mindset you’ll notice that you can really overcome anything that’s thrown your way, you’ll be able to feel confident more than ever and work towards your dreams. Facing your fears might seem scary and out of your element, but with enough motivation, you’ll be able to do anything you’ve ever wanted to do with the confidence you should have. Just remember to be yourself and know that you can do anything that you set your mind to.
2. Work It Out
Sometimes fitness can answer a lot of our problems. It doesn’t matter who you are or what shape your health is in, being active regardless of all that will help you gain a better understanding of yourself, you’d be surprised! It’s so easy to just mope around the house and do nothing all day, get out and go for a run. You’ll feel fresh and more energized before you start your day and your health will thank you! So next time you decide to just hang around the house and do nothing all day, slip on those running shoes and just go for a light jog. We bet you’ll feel revitalized and renewed over time instead of just wallowing in how you feel bad about yourself. Don’t look at it as a way to get fit, look at it as a way to release all that stress.
1. Treat Yo’ Self
When it comes down to it if you want to go out for coffee at midnight or treat yourself to a dinner all to yourself, just do it. When it comes down to it, you’re worth it, you deserve the best and you deserve to enjoy the life you’re living no matter what anyone else says. Treat yo’ self and go all out. Even if you need to pretend it’s your birthday, just do it, because there’s nothing wrong with giving yourself the best you can. Let yourself grow and allow yourself to make some mistakes, you’ll be a better person for it, trust us.
These tips are only a base to give you a head start when you’re trying to embrace yourself and accept who you are as a person, it’s a rocky journey and you need to commit to it fully to take these basic tips and really make the most out of them. Don’t give up.