WHY DO WE FEEL THE NEED TO ALWAYS GIVE EXPLANATIONS?
Being an active member of society can fill you with all sorts of pressure and stress. Certain situations make you feel like you must respond a certain way or act in a specific manner. And yes, some people think they know what is best for you and your livelihood.
REGARDLESS OF ALL OF THOSE THINGS, YOU MUST REMEMBER, YOU DON’T OWE ANYONE AN EXPLANATION FOR…
1. YOUR LIVING SITUATION.
The way you live your life at home is no one’s business but your own. It doesn’t matter whether you have housemates, live alone, live unmarried with a partner, or if you still live with your ex.
2. YOUR LIFE PRIORITIES.
Dream of opening a restaurant? Want to become a pastor at your church? Have an urge to sell all of your belongings and backpack through Peru? Go for it! And remember, you never need to explain your priorities to anyone because they are your priorities, and are not there to impress people.
3. NEEDING ALONE TIME.
If you require alone time in your life, you’re not being rude, introverted, or unfriendly, despite what others might think. You just need time to be by yourself- alone. We all need time to find our center and refocus.
4. YOUR PHYSICAL APPEARANCE.
We all go through changes with our bodies. Losing weight, gaining weight, getting a new hairstyle, growing a beard, or doing anything different with your physical appearance doesn’t require an explanation. They will just have to deal with your purple hair.
5. YOUR FOOD PREFERENCES.
Not everyone is fan of pizzas and burgers. Some folks like banana and bacon sandwiches, or they prefer spaghetti with butter instead of tomato sauce. We all have different tastes when it comes to food. If someone tries to judge you over it, don’t pay them any mind. You just go ahead an dip your french fries in your ice cream.
6. YOUR SEX LIFE.
This is a no-brainer. It is a very personal part of your life, and whether your sex life does or doesn’t exist, it’s no one’s business but your own. There will always be someone who will pass judgement on you for who you sleep with or what your sexuality is. But I’ve found, their opinion doesn’t matter.
7. YOUR CAREER OR PERSONAL LIFE CHOICES.
Go in the direction you want to go, and follow the path of your choosing. If you are a talented artist who desires working in the legal field, follow your heart. If being a lawyer is your dream, go for it. The ones who truly care for you will support your decision.
8. YOUR RELIGIOUS OR POLITICAL VIEWS.
These days, it’s easy to pick a fight- just ask someone what their political or religious affiliation is and watch the battle ensue. Whether you are a Republican or a Democrat, a Catholic or a Protestant, it is your choice and yours alone, and you never need to defend your beliefs (as long as they don’t harm anyone). Of course, if someone wants to have a mature, candid discussion with you about the topic, then go for it. Exchanging ideas and viewpoints can expand the mind and is beneficial for both parties.
9. BEING SINGLE.
Regardless if you’ve been single for a week or a year, you’re probably comfortable with the decision at this point in your life. If people are pressuring you to find a date, or to get married and settle down, tell them to mind their own. Being single can be great.
10. YOUR RELATIONSHIP CHOICES.
Did your ex ask you to get back together and you said yes? Did you forgive the one that cheated on you?Did you turn down a marriage proposal? Well guess what? All of these decisions were made by you for your own set of reasons. You followed your heart and this is where you landed, and you don’t owe anyone an explanation for that.
Life can be complicated, and the people around us can either make it more difficult, or they can ease the burdens by supporting your choices. You don’t have to give explanations for everything.