We’re all fighting uphill battles everyday, which is one thing we definitely share with each other. Our problems may be different, but we’re all basically going through the same motions, so to speak. What’s worse, however, is the self-sabotaging that we do to ourselves. Instead of giving ourselves the breaks we need, we attack ourselves. We screw with ourselves and punish ourselves.
Throughout all of this self-wreckage, our subconscious mind is trying to level with us. It’s trying to help us understand the importance of valuing ourselves. So keep reading to find out what your subconscious mind wants you to know, based on the way you keep self-sabotaging yourself.
Worst enemy. Sometimes, we’re our own worst enemy. Instead of having people on the outside trying to sabotage us, we do it ourselves. Thanks to Thought Catalog, there is now a comprehensive way to best address this issue, looking through our subconscious minds to discover its best recommendations with helping ourselves out.
The negative return. It’s safe to say that quite a few of us have been in crappy relationships. What’s also true is that plenty of us have a tendency to return to people after breaking up who we know aren’t good for us. We remember the good times, but never the bad times, and as a result, we end up suffering.
The answer. Your subconscious mind wants you to realize that this is not a good move for you. If you enjoy being with someone who hurts you, then maybe this is rooted in something much more serious. Maybe you feel like you need to punish yourself with these people, even though you never actually did anything wrong.
The committing type. When we embark on relationships, it’s important that we find people are eager to commit, or at least willing to commit. However, if you keep finding yourself being attracted to people are unable or unwilling to commit, then you may want to ask yourself why you’re doing this to yourself.
Broken people. You tend to bring people into your life who are too broken to truly commit, and you do this because you think you are broken as well. The truth is, your subconscious wants you to know that this isn’t the case. You’re not too broken. You may be intimidated or afraid, but you’re not too broken.
Unhappiness. There’s nothing abnormal about feeling unhappy. It happens to the best of us, and even though it hurts, it’s OK. However, if you keep insisting that you’re unhappy, even though nothing is wrong, then there are underlying issues that you need to confront, and your subconscious mind is here to help.
From within. The biggest problem here is that you’re likely hoping that an outside source will play some role and help you out. You’re expecting change to come to you, when in reality, it doesn’t work like that. You need to take an active role in bettering yourself, and realizing that you have the ability to change your own mind and sense of purpose.
Pushing. The last thing you want to do is push people away in your life, especially when they’re positive elements in your life. If you realize that this is something you do, then it’s obvious that you’re sabotaging yourself. You need to listen to your subconscious and do what’s really going to benefit you.
Loss. You want love and connections, but you’re so afraid of the concept of loss, that you don’t even bother accepting positive connections in your life. You feel safer pushing people away, but this is such an unhealthy way to live. You will run into issues where you lose people, but it won’t be everyone. Not everyone will leave you.
Strange assumptions. It’s like swallowing a poisonous capsule when you convince yourself of something that isn’t even true. We do this to ourselves all the time, and we end up making situations so much more worse than they need to be. You think something, assume it’s true and then never accept that the truth is actually buried away elsewhere.
Belief. You have too much doubt in people. You’re afraid that people are out to get you, and you figure that you must be the only one with the right answers. As a result, you end up stressing yourself out over nothing. You put sink yourself into a pit of despair, even though the pit is completely unnecessary and only there because you put it there.
Crappy eating habits. We all know that bad food is bad for us, and we know exactly what those bad foods are… no matter how much we may try to convince ourselves otherwise. If you don’t want to eat poorly, but you’re doing it anyway, then there’s an underlying problem that your subconscious really wants you to recognize.
Stress eating. Honestly, you may just be incredibly stressed and overworked. People say that they turn to comfort foods when they’re stressed or depressed, and that’s because comfort foods are real. You may just need to give yourself a break every now and then.
Moving forward. If you want to move forward in life, you’ve got to put in the appropriate work. However, if you refuse to do that, then you’re only hurting yourself. You’re denying yourself opportunities that could move you forward, into a more comfortable area in life. Not doing these things will only make you feel stuck and incapable.
What we want. If this is something you can relate to, then it’s most likely happening because you’re on a path that you’re not entirely confident with. Maybe you don’t want what you think you want. Maybe you need to do some more digging. Maybe you need to find your true love.