Worrying is a normal part of life, but for some of us, it takes over almost completely and even affects our sleep.
Chances are, if you are a woman, you have experienced something like this before, or perhaps you’re dealing with it right now. You get ready for bed, your head hits the pillow, and it all begins…the endless worries. Tossing and turning, maybe you get a few hours of sleep, but you wake up exhausted as if you never slept at all.
Why do we go through this? And what can we do about it?
Here are 4 main worries that cause women to lose sleep:
#1 Financial Strain
On the latest American Psychological Association’s survey of stress, women’s top worries were about their financial situation. If you have a stagnant wage, a fixed income, or don’t have a good idea where new clients will come from you might have worries about how you will keep up financially. You might worry about how you will pay for your children’s education (or your own), or healthcare expenses, or how you might have extra to pay for something that rejuvenates you in your life.
#2 Work-Related Concerns
Maybe a project is almost due and your deadline is nearing. Maybe there are problems at work and even though incessantly thinking about them won’t solve anything, it’s what you do- you overthink and overworry.
Most of us have too much to do and not enough time. It’s our nervous system that serves to help us deal with the relentless demand and constant change in our lives. It has two parts an “On” button which gives us the energy to solve problems, focus, and run around during our day. And an “Off” button which gives us calm and rejuvenation. Though we’re supposed to have access to both our “On” and “Off” button, the way we live and work today, we are “Always On”. Waking up with worries about your “to-do” list is a classic sign of an ‘overactive On button’.
#3 Health Concerns
When we worry about our health too much, we cause ourselves stress, which actually lowers our immune system’s defenses. Use your concerns as a chance to commit to taking even better care of yourself with the food you eat, how often you exercise, and the way you spend your time. If you are truly worried, consult a physical, then combat whatever issues may arise- if they arise. It’s normal to worry about your health, or the health of a loved one, but make sure there is time set aside where you don’t worry, or you will create a cycle of unwellness.
It’s great to have empathy, be an empath, or be sympathetic to the problems of others. But when our loved one’s issues become our own, it can make things worse for both parties. Of course you care about them, but the best way to help someone isn’t by consuming and taking on their burdens- it’s by being there for them and showing support and love. You won’t help anyone if you are too drained and exhausted to function. Rather than lie awake at night when you need to rejuvenate, set aside “worry time” during the day. Take a designated amount of time (say 10 minutes, or 30 minutes) and write out your worries. The key is to ask yourself to come up with options and keep writing until you come up with a solution(s).
We all have times where we wish we could shut our brain off for a few hours and just rest , and allow our bodies to recover. Sometimes, you have to create your own stress-free space, and make sure you follow your own rules. Before you go to bed tonight, leave your worries outside the door, focus on your well-being, and clear your thoughts of any doubts you may have.
This is your time.