A relationship between an empath and a narcissist is difficult, empaths become victims if they don’t know how to create boundaries and protect themselves.
An empath can’t stand to see someone in pain and they are naturally drawn to the narcissist. But narcissists don’t want to heal. They just want to manipulate and (unlike the empath) enjoy seeing others in pain.
Being in a relationship with a narcissist is an unhealthy decision, but sometimes the attraction to “healing” another person becomes too great.
Here’s what happens in a relationship between an empath and a narcissist:
In a relationship between an empath and a narcissist exists an imaginary connection.
The empath feels a strong connection to the narcissist. The narcissist doesn’t do anything, but the empath feels fulfilled just from being around them.
The empaths believe they found their “once in lifetime” connection.
And the narcissist affirms it. They say that the connection between them is special. And the empath feels a deep bond that is impossible to break free.
The empath loves to love.
The empaths believe in love and they expect from this relationship a deep, unconditional love. The empaths do everything to make their partner happy. But the more love and care someone shows to a narcissist, the more powerful the narcissist becomes.
The empath will feel that their relationship is going well.
That is what the narcissist makes them feel. But the thing is that the narcissist is constantly seeking for validation. They often ask “you love me, right?”. And they make every conversation about themselves.
The narcissist makes the empath feel weak.
As the time passes, the empath starts to believe they are less capable and they need their narcissist in life. The narcissist will use statements like “I don’t want to hurt you” but they point out some shortcoming. The narcissist will take control over everything and make decisions for their empath.
The empath will do anything to make their narcissist feel better.
The empath can’t see their narcissist in any kind of pain. They would help them, cheer them and do anything it takes to make their narcissist feel better.
The relationship is in the narcissist’s control.
The narcissist leaves the empath feeling reliant on them for everything. The empath feels like no one else wants them.
The empath needs their narcissist.
In order to feel okay, the empath believes they “need” the narcissist. Manipulation tactics and control mechanism causes the empaths to experience anxiety and depression. The empaths alienate themselves and the narcissist becomes their whole world.
It’s all about the narcissist.
In a relationship between an empath and a narcissist, the empath becomes afraid to talk about their desires or needs.
The empath’s friends and family don’t recognize them.
The empath reaches their breaking point. They become someone else.
The empath adopts traits of the narcissist.
The empath starts to be selfish and concerned about their own well-being. They raise a voice. And they realize that their needs are important.
In the relationship between the empath and the narcissist, conflicts arise.
The narcissist can’t accept how their empath becomes selfish. How they raise their voice about their needs. The empath tries to communicate in all truthfulness but the narcissist will make excuses and find ways to pass the blame and convince the empath it’s all their fault. They are just justifying their behavior.
The relationship falls apart.
The empath looks to themselves as the problem, while the narcissist looks for their next victim. They were both wounded and the empath will see that they need to heal themselves.
The empath needs transformation.
The empath needs re-evaluate their healing process. They were damaged and broken. But they learn from this experience to be wiser and to protect themselves from the people like their ex-narcissist.