Relationships can be tricky at the best of times. But when you add a psychic connection to the mix, it can become downright brutal.
Luckily, there are ways to not only handle this unusual addition, but also ways to use a physic connection to strengthen and fortify the bond between you and your partner.
Let’s talk about what a psychic connection is, first of all.
In the child, consciousness rises out of the depths of unconscious psychic life, at first like separate islands, which gradually unite to form a ‘continent,’ a continuous landmass of consciousness. Progressive mental development means, in effect, extension of consciousness. – Carl Jung
A psychic connection is when you and another person understand each other’s feelings, thoughts, and even their energy without saying a word. Sometimes, you don’t even have to be in the same room as them, or the same country!
For example, let’s say you have a spouse who is away on business for a week. The third day rolls around and despite everything feeling fine the past couple of days, today feels different. Something just doesn’t seem right. So you phone your partner, and discover your assumption was correct- they had been in an accident.
Now this is the type of psychic connection that almost any couple who is close to each other would probably experience. Another type, however, is knowing when something doesn’t add up, or that your partner isn’t being completely honest. It’s pretty easy to pick up on those times when he/she is hiding something, especially if you have spent some time with the other person.
We should also mention that there is a type of psychic connection that a lot of couples don’t want to acknowledge or admit they experience: the overactive psychic connection.
This type of connection happens when two cosmic forces who are aligned, refuse to connect as they should. In other words, communication is broken down and both parties overthink, worry, and stress to the point it causes conflict between them. A lot of times, instead of looking inward and finding time for solitude, these cosmic forces (people) will insist on surrounding themselves with others, or even the very person they insist on blaming (their partner).
Alright, so we’ve mentioned a few types of psychic connections and none of them seem to have any super positive sounding outcomes. But just as with any type of spiritual work, growth and transformation means going through some uncomfortable processes.
“People need hard times and oppression to develop psychic muscles”. – Emily Dickinson
Erich Fromm says, “The psychic task which a person can and must set for himself is not to feel secure, but to be able to tolerate insecurity.”
And that is very true. We must be able to be okay with ourselves being imperfect, and understand that our doubts and insecurities are what make us so human. Accepting them and growing from them is one way to start strengthening your relationship.
Now I’m not saying stay there in that place of doubt and learn to live with it. I’m saying accept that we are all flawed, and instead of blaming yourself or someone else for the way you feel, move past it and find solace in yourself- or rather, within yourself.
What if you are dealing with an intense psychic connection in a relationship and are unsure how to handle it?
I suggest consulting someone who is adept in the psychic realm and all it entails. Psychic advisers are gifted with seeing things that a lot of us simply pass off as coincidences or “weird feelings.” Plus, they can use information from your birth chart to help you understand why the psychic connection you are struggling with is so intense. For the skeptics out there, I suggest you read this thread on Quora about the validity of psychics.
Essentially, a psychic connection is a beautiful thing to experience with your partner, once you learn to love yourself completely. And that’s not an easy thing to do, but having a loving supporting partner certainly helps make it a bit easier.
“It is an absolute human certainty that no one can know his own beauty or perceive a sense of his own worth until it has been reflected back to him in the mirror of another loving, caring human being.” ― John Joseph Powell
An important thing to remember, for both people in the relationship, is to be completely open and honest with each other. Express how you are feeling (without pointing fingers or placing blame) and allow your partner to do the same. Remember not to take things personally or as an attack- and when you vocalize your thoughts, try to avoid phrasing like “you make me feel like,” “you always do…,” “you never…” Instead, say things using “I.”
“I feel that sometimes I’m not being heard, and that hurts my feelings.”
“I don’t know how to handle all of this work and could really use some more help.”
Also, ask questions when communicating. Instead of reacting to something that has been said with anger or annoyance, or even hurt or shame, ask for clarity. Ask your partner to express what they mean in another way, or to elaborate. Communication is essential to a healthy relationship and if you have a psychic connection on top of that, you really want things to be clear.
Keep in mind that psychic connections can happen with people you aren’t in a relationship with, like family members, or people you haven’t started dating yet.
As you can see, psychic connections come in all different types and varieties. Hopefully this information can help you to understand your a bit better.
By Raven Fon