15 Things You’ll Notice When You’re In The Presence of an Empath

By Raven Fon

“As much as we notice, consciously or subconsciously, there are some things you’ll notice about us too.”

I remember an instance when I rang the cable company to ask about upgrading my service. After some time had passed, the man I was speaking to had basically poured his heart out about his wife’s battle with cancer.  I never found the information I was looking for, but it wasn’t that important any longer. I had given someone comfort and reassurance- even if they had no idea why they felt the need to tell me this stuff in the first place.

A very similar situation happened when I was out at a restaurant with my niece. I ordered my drink and the next thing I knew, our waiter was asking me how to handle leaving their spouse. There are countless stories like this for me, but I want to know how many you have.

Marshall Rosenberg, author of Non-Violent Communication, defines empathy as this:

“In empathy, you don’t speak at all. You speak with the eyes. You speak with the body. If you say any words at all, it’s because you are not sure you are with the person. So you may say some words. But the words are not empathy. Empathy is when the other person feels the connection to with what’s alive in you.”

With empaths, as much as we notice, consciously or subconsciously, you’ll notice a few things about us too.

15 Things You’ll Notice When You’re Around an Empath

1. We are accused of being “too sensitive” or “too emotional.”

Empaths are not “too” anything. They feel things deeply- both positive and negative. They are in touch with their emotions, and yours. Though it might be harder for an empath to operate in a world designed for less-sensitive people, being an empath has several positive aspects.

2. We can’t stand being lied to.

All it takes is a simple glance in your direction to know you are lying to us. A lot of people don’t realize this, but being lied to really sucks for an empath. We feel it ooze into every aspect of the relationship…and it usually ends them.

3. Negative media images directly affect us.

It’s hard, almost impossible, for an empath to “unfeel” something. We avoid the news, and if we see something upsetting, our emotions are a mess for quite a while. Imagine feeling overwhelming sadness and suffering every single time you saw something violent or upsetting on the news. That’s what it is like for us.

4. Crowded places overwhelm us.

Empaths exist in all personality types, including introvert and extrovert, but even the outgoing ones are easily overwhelmed in crowds. The sheer force of energies and feelings you absorb is exhausting. You might like going to concerts and sporting events, but once there, you can’t wait to leave.

5. We love to heal.

Empaths want what is best for you and your wellbeing. Of course, as with all of our advice, it is only helpful if you actually implement it in your life.

6. We are sensitive to stimulants and medications.

Coffee, certain teas, energy drinks, soda- anything with caffeine makes us more anxious and agitated than the rest of the world. And, when it comes to medications, we try to avoid them as much as possible because of the myriad of side effects we experience.

7. We can only be us.

As far as honest people go, empaths are the truest friends you could ask for. We know who we are and we embrace it fully. It’s other people who seem to have an issue with our sensitive nature and honest attitude.

8. We experience what you are experiencing.

If someone we are close to is ill, depressed, or agitated, we display those same symptoms. We are so connected to what you are going through, that we go through it with you.

9. We don’t like animals, we LOVE animals.

Empaths don’t have pets, we have family members. When we see an animal in the wild, we see a soul…perfect and pure. We talk to them in various ways just as you would your best friend, and guess what…they talk back.

10. Tired, exhausted, and fatigued is normal for us.

Because we absorb so much from others, we don’t just deal with our own emotional and mental drains, we deal with everybody’s.

11. If we give advice, take it. If we take the time to listen to your dilemma, and give you heartfelt advice, just listen to it. We know what we are talking about and if you ask for our advice and ignore it, well, let’s just say it kinda annoys us to no end.

12. We are easily distracted. 

Perhaps it is due to our heightened sensitivity to everything around us, but empaths are easily distracted and tend to lose focus. It’s not a bad thing, we are simply enjoying all the small things you might not notice.

13. We can’t stand narcissism.

If you are head over heels in love with your reflection, your money, and your ego- just stay away. We really can’t roll our eyes any harder.

14. Certain sounds really bother us.

But it’s not just sounds. Certain textures, fabrics, bright lights and loud noises can really get to us. The polar opposite is true as well. Soft sounds, gentle caresses, and delicate tastes are also highly noticed, but in a pleasant way.

15. We are great listeners.

It’s true. You can tell us anything and everything about your life and we will listen. We will take that journey with you and experience all the highs and lows contained within. And what’s even better, is that we hold no judgement over what you tell us. We are there to help you, not to hurt you.


73 thoughts on “15 Things You’ll Notice When You’re In The Presence of an Empath

  • October 15, 2016 at 9:05 pm

    Nail: head.

  • October 8, 2016 at 2:56 pm

    Higher frequencies are part of the journey… silence is the one that unifies the rest I guess… yeah… sounds right

  • October 6, 2016 at 9:04 pm

    This is me to a “T”. I am so sensitive to medications and caffeine products it is almost unbearable at times. Certain light, sounds, feelings I just cannot be around. I always say give me 15 minutes with a person and I will know their life story. Everyone seems to want to talk with me. Animals are my family…not just the ones in the house but every animal that I come upon. This article was just like reading about who I am. People think I’m weird because I can’t be around certain people, places, smells, but it is me.

  • September 26, 2016 at 5:05 pm

    It seems to me that the females in the family are more in touch with this going on. My mother was very in touch with was going on around her , and in hers dreams also. My sister feels erveryones emotions, and most of the time a very angry person. She just became a Reiki Master , so hopefully she works on herself with that part of being an Empath. Myself I have to be very careful what I watch on TV. Wether it’s the news, movies and that such. I also live with a man that has PTSD. And that is my challenge. I have to put a white light around me every morning before I get up, so I can deal with his situation. The one I’m most concerned about is my granddaughter. She is an old spirit. She picks up on everyone and everything. She says her stomach hurts all the time. How do I teach her to protect herself from all this negative energy? I haven’t been able to sit with her because she can’t stand to be around all this. Thank you

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  • September 15, 2016 at 4:20 am

    Debbie, just a beautiful suggestion..
    Sending out love, is so powerful in energy that the weaker negative stuff doesn’t stand a chance attaching to you.

  • September 15, 2016 at 4:13 am

    WOW. WOW. WOW. Pam… Your comment is AWESOME…. Thank you for the reminders….
    To keep myself “clean” I breathe in White light

  • September 11, 2016 at 12:11 pm

    I’m constantly feeling all vibrations, I can’t do anything but ignore them, reason: I’m also a conduit to the spirit world, I hear and see almost on a daily basis….so I’m glad for you that have found some relief and piece, I’m Indigo from 1945.

  • September 11, 2016 at 8:38 am

    Yes. It sure does sting!

  • September 10, 2016 at 9:53 pm

    emapaths..are we not indigo children?starseeds ?all seem to have the same make up…whatever you want to call it,its special,and should be seen as a gift,not a chore,helping people is a selfless act,the reward is spiritual richness,we dont look for anything in return,although we receive it,when we recieve help ourselves from people..and the knowing when we see a difference made to someones life when we have helped,smiles..priceless!x we cant control the world but we can control what we do,and if we are caring and loving and dont harm others,have empathy,we teach others to see this way,it catches..like negativity does,so does positivity,and if everyone did this,the world would change,person by person and be healed..i think this is the intention meant for our gift empaths!

  • September 10, 2016 at 7:38 pm

    A true empath doesn’t eat animals or animal products. Animals are severely harmed (and killed) in the making of such things, and once you know what’s done you can’t go back to consuming them because you feel the pain of the animals you are eating. An empath who eats animals is either ignorant of how they are treated, or is not empathetic enough to overcome their own selfish desires (for “good food,” despite the fact that veg food is just as delicious, if not more so, than animal products).

    Everything else I agree with – except perhaps the whole “take our advice” bit. Having someone’s best interests at heart doesn’t mean you’re always right. And thinking your advice should always be listened to and heeded is ignorant and self-absorbed.

  • September 10, 2016 at 5:47 pm

    Yes…yes…100% Thank you. Especially 14. No one ever talks about the sounds, smells, textures that can harm or sooth us. ?????

  • September 10, 2016 at 3:42 pm

    A co-worker walks in the office and before I even know the “What’s wrong?” Question flys out of my mouth. They look at me like if I am crazy and say: “how did you know? Being empath is the greatest gift that the universe has given me, but at times it feels like a curse too. At times I’d feel anger or sadness for no apparent reason and it takes few moments to realize that this are not my emotions. I think, though, that our world needs healing and that’s why the universe has given us this ability – to understand and heal and bring harmony to those who crosse our path.

  • September 10, 2016 at 3:36 pm

    i have always been told i’m to sensitive, that i have the heart of a chicken, at the least provocation it crumples. I cannot see anyone being hurt, humiliated, or abused, even if it is in a movie, when i know it is fiction; forget about it being a true story, i do crumple. the older i get, the more exhausting it is to be around people and drama. I use excuses, feigning illness to avoid gatherings. I take psychotropics, as a coping mechanism, which is not good i know, but i can’t cope otherwise. at work, even though there are many persons, just having that one person who saps you emotionally can really be draining. luckily i have been blessed with angels, who know when they are needed, but even the grateful feelings, bring on a humbling feeling that is overwhelming.

  • September 10, 2016 at 11:28 am

    Yes this is me on every level. I am mentally and physically exhausted all the time. I feel everything. Especially from animals . I feel everyone and everything’s emotions and sometimes illness or pain. And more than once I have gotten flicks of something bad going to happen almost like a view master would be and it usually happens that day or next. My great grandmother was a physic they tell me she used to help police find missing persons. And my grandma read tea leaves and was aleYs spot on. I have had some really odd experiences as well. Great article thank you.

  • September 8, 2016 at 5:46 pm

    Yep. Exactly. There are a lot of imposters calling themselves empaths so they can abuse and take advantage of true empaths. Luckily, we recognize the fakes, but sometimes not before they show us their true colors.

  • September 8, 2016 at 3:44 pm

    I feel the exact same way. I am so thankful to find this article. It explains so much.

    Thank you

  • September 8, 2016 at 11:30 am

    I’ve experienced this! I’m guessing you have children yourself which opened the door for someone else to go into every detail. I don’t have children so I don’t get pulled into these kinds of conversations. I feel that our own experiences bring out elaborate stories from other people. I’ve actually stopped sharing stories about myself to everyone and keep a lot of myself to myself. It helps me compartmentalize my feelings and emotions by controlling where stories go. As far as ending conversations, I use my easily distracted nature to my advantage. Since I’m happiest multi-tasking, it’s not hard for me to end conversations that I’m trying to get out of. We have more control over situations and outcomes over others that are not empathic.

  • September 8, 2016 at 11:28 am

    I’ve experienced this! I’m guessing you have children yourself which opened the door for someone else to go into every detail. I don’t have children so I don’t get pulled into these kinds of conversations. I feel that our own experiences bring out elaborate stories from other people. I’ve actually stopped sharing stories about myself to everyone and keep a lot of myself to myself. It helps me compartmentalize my feelings and emotions by controlling where stories go. As far as ending conversations, I use my easily distracted nature to my advantage. Since I’m happiest multi-tasking, it’s not hard for me to end conversations that I’m trying to get out of. We have more control over situations and outcomes over others that are not empathic. I’ve been where you are at before.

  • September 8, 2016 at 6:53 am

    I realized I was an empath, that there was a name for it, by watching Deanna Troi on Star Trek. I had to leave NY though I love it because I couldn’t handle being in such close proximity to so many people all the time. I never understood the appeal of horror movies. One thing that helps is if you cover your abdomen when in a room of negativity because emotions enter through the solar plexus, that’s why it’s a “gut feeling”. The only thing I never associated with being an empath was the whole people telling me their life story thing. I just thought they were talkitive!

  • September 8, 2016 at 6:41 am

    I have had these same issues–
    What I’ve learned is that often times we have to “shield ourselves”– and I do that by reminding myself to avoid eye contact when I’m in a crowd or a store– it helps me to not feel what I’m seeing in other people’s eyes which of course as an Empath lets you into their soul– I used to go into a mall and be bombarded by every conversation- snippets of happy things and things that were hard to bear- the teen who’s trying to fit in with a group who is being dismissive and unkind to them– a mother scolding a child for being tired when she wants to shop- an old couple sitting on a bench holding hands- I would hear and see everything– all the lights, colors- racks and displays to look through– smells and the urge to hold my nose and run past the candle shop or the one that sells body and bath things– I would have conversations with people and something or someone would go by – again taking my attention away – in every direction- concerts were awful– but you learn coping skills– like: when I NEED to buy something at the mall– I go at off times– I go with a list and look for that thing- then I leave– concerts- I don’t go often but I get there early and leave early– ( I really don’t need to stay for an encore!)-
    At some point, you learn that for every person who does truly need you- you will open and listen– I don’t give advice – that’s not what they want– they have no one to say-” What does your gut tell you? What does your heart tell you? Go with what you know is best even if it’s hard and love as best you can– you really know how to work through this– you’re going to be okay_ no matter how it goes it’s going to be okay..” Too many people have a lot of people judging them, what they’ve done, what they need to do, & when they look at you– you have to tell them they can figure it out- like we do as Empaths- we can give them some relief with a touch on the arm- a hug – but be prepare yourself to take the energy you unloaded from them and immediately off load it–Sometimes just dealing with all you have floating around you in your own world is very wearing- take time to look at ways to adjust the energy around you – by using essential oils in a diffuser- lavender, sandalwood, lemon- it amazes me when the cranky dude walks in and I’ve anticipated his mood- how he is calmed within 20 minutes! Just remember to shield yourself– shake whatever energies off that aren’t yours- and keep your home free of negativity– it takes practice- & sometimes you get caught off guard- – that’s when you say,” I really think I Ned to go out side and hug s tree–grounding yourself ! Love & light dear heart you’ll find your way! ???

  • September 8, 2016 at 4:20 am


    through this post i realize , others are there who are like me. I feel I belong!

    Thank you author!

  • September 8, 2016 at 2:50 am

    Sorry, Lisa ~ if the only reason you posted to this thread was to denigrate someone who called you out, you *might just be a narcissist. #foodforthought

  • September 7, 2016 at 10:14 pm

    Everything said so hits home…100%
    I’ve known I was empathic since I was a small child. It can be the deepest of pain to the most magnificent point of elation!
    Once I learned to block & protect myself, it is the greatest gift.

  • September 7, 2016 at 9:56 pm

    There sure are a lot of us empaths out here. I am definitely one and have been it seems like forever. In the summer of 1998 I became a Reiki Master and it has really helped me to be able to shield myself from too much input from my surroundings and people.

    Among the many ‘attributes’ I love quietness and a good cuddle the best.

  • September 7, 2016 at 8:10 pm

    Thanks for sharing this, I have always thought I was insane. I’m 61years old and cry for what seems to be nothing. When ever there is an accident or murder I feel intense pain and sorrow. 9/11 is coming, so, I’ll need to lock myself up in my room or yard because it is way too overwhelming for me. The older I get, the harder it is to shield myself from the pain of others. The anger they feel burn me like an out of control fire.
    It’s nice to hear that others also go through this.
    Thanks again.

  • September 7, 2016 at 7:37 pm

    I have sent healing vibes to your sister. I hope they find her, wherever she may be. Do not give up on her. There is always hope.

  • September 7, 2016 at 6:20 pm

    wow I would have never even considered being an empath until I read this article and I am pretty surprized. It sure explains a lot
    I wanted to ad that with these recollections I also feel peoples emotion ,- I seem to be able to figure out what’s wrong quickly and adapt accordingly without anything being discussed
    and I’ve never known why but this article opened my eyes to new possibilities
    Internet’s very cool


  • September 7, 2016 at 5:48 pm

    I’m so happy that I finally found out what an empath is. I always thought I was just strange because I could “Feel” people. I’ve finally begun to do self care, removing toxic people from my life.

    And learning to love myself.

  • September 7, 2016 at 4:40 pm

    How odd that you mentioned people asking you if you were an “Angel”. That has happened to me several times in my life. I always wondered what was wrong with me; why other people did not FEEL the pain I felt..the suffering I felt. Before I learned about being an “Empath”; I used to say that “I hurt for the world” or “I cry for the world”. I am 60 years old and at times felt that I must be mentally ill. No one in my family understood or felt like I did.I was deemed “too sensitive”; told to “just get over it”…My opinion has always been that I would rather be the way I AM than become jaded & feel nothing..or be o.k. when I see the suffering & pain of others. At least now I know there are other people like me. I’m not crazy. I am BLESSED.

  • September 7, 2016 at 2:47 pm

    OMGosh. I so get the feeling. I have dropped a couple dear friends lately because they have no interest in listening to me. They are only here to talk to me and for me to listen. Even after saying to them after 25 yrs I am not going to listen to you whine about the same things. Still. It took me years of worrying how to tell them this and when I do. Nothing. Still telling me the same things over and over. I am so happy to hear there is a name for this and so happy that I no longer work at the co. bldg. where there are hundreds of people every day trying to tell me their story only because they think I can help them with their legal troubles. I am free.

  • September 7, 2016 at 11:57 am

    I am not sure what I am besides confused my heart is In overdrive when I can help and when I can’t bring on the restless nights.
    Seeing a woman cry brings me to tears as well
    1 example if you will a couple of years ago I was part of an outdoor Haunted Attraction on our way to the attraction (me my wife and a friend) we drove by a house we’ve driven by at least a thousand times without the slightest knowledge of the house or who lived there,as we drove by I suddenly became very angry for no reason and I looked right at the house but as soon as we were down the street I was fine hours later while doing the haunt I heard a loud crash and became instantly saddened and anxious but I was the only one who heard it so again just passed it off and kept scaring on our way home we passed The house again only this time I was overwhelmed with deep sadness and concern I so much wanted to stop and ask if everyone was ok
    But they were having a Halloween party I was dressed in gore so I figured I would just be laughed at, turns out next morning 1 of the party goers left to get a present for his girlfriends birthday something happened he flipped his car over a rock wall and died instantly also turns out he was related to one of my closest and dearest friends.
    I guess what I’m trying to figure out is why the anger at first the sadness is understandable but also how am I the only one who heard what turned out to be him crashing over a rock wall???
    I’ve had many similar instances of intense unexplained emotions that come and go in a minute or so
    Just want to know what does that make me and how can I learn more about it so I can understand me more????

  • September 7, 2016 at 10:12 am

    I am a nurse too and have been told by managers to grow another skin…. says it all really, I don’t want to be any different to who I am.

  • September 7, 2016 at 10:10 am

    yes in bucket loads!!!
    My friends think it’s funny that I attract people in this way. I have life stories at the drop of a hat.
    I accept now that people aren’t interested in my story particularly, in general. Lovely when I do meet someone who shows a genuine interest, a fellow empath perhaps.
    I have good empathic friends who love me and know me well who feed my energy and I theirs.

  • September 7, 2016 at 7:48 am

    So sorry that your sister has become so overwhelmed in the dark night of the collective. Be pacient and loving. Speak to her kindly. This is her journey as an empath. I have found that consistently offering loving and kind words especially when the opposite is being given back is most effective over the long haul. Much love to you!

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  • September 7, 2016 at 5:00 am

    I am every one of those. I’ve been told my whole life I am too sensitive. I remember being told this at a very early age (4). It’s always bothered me. Not because I’m sensitive but because they dismiss my pain and fail to understand the burden that comes with this, daily. Every day is deep. It’s taken me years but I’ve learned to embrace it.

  • September 7, 2016 at 4:53 am

    I’m definitely an empath. Strangers have always felt the need to tell me their problems and their life stories for as long as I can remember. I also get really sick around really depressed people. I hate shopping and find myself screaming to get out as fast as possible. Any kind of background noises agitate me. I always know when people lie to me. I can read people very well and can pretty much predict their behavior. Sometimes it can be a gift and curse at the same time. I’m just recently learning more about it before I thought I was just depressed all the time now I try to separate myself from negative energy and have seen a tremendous change. Almost like night and day so I’m glad articles like this are making people more aware.

  • September 7, 2016 at 1:14 am

    That is such an eerie thing to read, so many of the questions I have about myself have a lot more direction now.
    So many years not being able to understand enough to know what I was trying to grasp and wield.

    I am thankful to have come across this and even more thankful that you wrote it.

    Thank you

  • September 7, 2016 at 1:01 am

    There are alot of us. The one’s that get overwhelmed are the one’s that haven’t learned to compartmentalize to protect themselves. Soldiers do it. They have to. When one of their’s is hurt or killed by their side, whether by a ied or their own hand, they become a survivor. Alot of them feel guilt that they have survived. By what right do they have what their brothers didn’t? You can only hope that you’ve been given the sight, the empathy, as a gift from God and to use it as such. You are not your brother’s keeper. Everyone has a certain amount of responsibility to use their lives and own gifts to their own ends. Feeling for everyone else is essentially just sapping your own lifesource. You can be sorry, helpful, prayerful and offer assistance, but you don’t have to absorb everyone’s struggles. That is for God to do. If it is uncontrollable, then seek medication (not the best choice) or meditation and ask what is it you should do? My heart goes out to those that cannot separate what they feel from all others, to what is reasonable (and not depleative to their own sanity).

  • September 7, 2016 at 12:40 am

    After working in Mental health for over 20 years I found that if you put the feelings into a separate space in your mind until you can process them you can cope with what people are feeling. It is a hard thing to learn to do but with practice it can be done and often processing the feelings a bit later also allows your brain to look at them in a calmer state than at the time. I identify with all the above but by being able to control how all those feelings affect me I have control some of the other sensitivities. I still have issues with sounds and textures and colours especially bright red it makes me want to throw up and as a child I did.

  • September 6, 2016 at 8:46 pm

    Describes myself very well. I had this awful experience before I knew how to define my traits as empathic where I met this woman who called herself an empath. She judged me and tried to make me seem like a narcissist in front of a whole room of people I was hoping to be friends with. Now I know that she is full of shit and that she was rubbed the wrong way by who I am because of it.
    As an empath, I could NEVER make someone feel that way unprovoked, especially another sensitive like myself.

  • September 6, 2016 at 8:14 pm

    Really terrific article and it definitely points out the great need for self-awareness and self-care. Working in a helping profession as well as doing healing work on my own time has allowed me to learn about psychic self-defense and focus on taking care of me. In the comments to this article are some examples of what happens when you don’t make YOU a priority. I think it is imperative that if we want to send healing out into the world we send it inward as well. As healers and empaths it’s a responsibility we own!

  • September 6, 2016 at 7:00 pm

    All of that and then some. After all these years my husband still marvels at the fact that complete strangers walk right up to me and start talking. Like they have known me forever and I make time for each and everyone of them. Also it’s fun to see them look at you and they can’t understand what in the world caused them to do that. It gives a chuckle now and then for sure.

  • September 6, 2016 at 6:00 pm

    This is the best explanation that I’ve ever seen. Absolutely everything applies to me. I need more books on this stuff. I think there’s even more to us than we realize.

  • September 6, 2016 at 5:52 pm

    I’ve always felt other people’s pain or illness and had people
    gravitate to me, looking for help. This article gave a name to what I am. Describes me 100%.

  • September 6, 2016 at 5:25 pm

    Thank you Mischa, I do believe in the power of prayer, and I would sincerely appreciate your prayers, her name is Marita.

  • September 6, 2016 at 5:19 pm

    Thank you Donna, You are right, I have been extra busy lately and have not spent much time focused and praying for her. I will though, as I don’t know anything else that can possibly help. If you wouldn’t mind maybe a prayer from you, her name is Marita. Thanks, Suzanne

  • September 6, 2016 at 4:15 pm

    I am still struggling with number 15 because numbers 4 and 12 are overwhelming

  • September 6, 2016 at 4:08 pm

    Definitely feel all of this article. People don’t understand my sound sensitivities and feelings of being overwhelmed in crowds. The depression and anxiety that goes along with all of this empathy is suffocating at times so it’s just simpler to avoid most of it whenever possible. The place I feel the most peaceful is in the forests with no other noises than nature.

  • September 6, 2016 at 12:09 pm

    Exactly! As the world gets crazier, I find my survival and sanity depends on me constantly sending out loving healing energy for the suffering to absorb. Healing energy transforms destructive thoughts and feelings into well-being. When I learned to give light from within to the world I was able to stop taking the pain of the world within and make a real difference. Empaths are healers and must learn to bring themselves into the world instead of the world into themselves! A lifelong challenge for sure.

  • September 5, 2016 at 10:17 pm

    This is a great article and describes me to a tee, when I am really on I’ve heard more stories than I can even describe, a lady pouring out her heart about her lego hoarding addiction and her full barn for almost an hour all because I said “I can’t believe how expensive of it is nowadays.” in the toy aisle, I find the elderly and the disabled to be especially drawn to me, I’ve been asked out right before if I’m an angel. It can be so overwhelming at times though, sometimes I hate being like this especially when it’s time to end the conversation but they can’t seem to let go, I get it for once someone is listening and feeling and not judging and living through it with them, I get this sense sometimes like even though they get that you get it and feel it, it’s almost like disbelief someone understands how can that be no one cares that much especially when dealing with strangers, so they try to hold on to that feeling keep the conversation going, any advice on how to deal with that when cornered? Most of the time I can say nothing for what seems like ever and one story moves to the next and the next and before you know it we just met on the bus but you’re telling me about child abuse, or cheating or my favorite your giving birth stories I have heard so many of those, I think it’s just such an emotional event that when it the presence of an empath it’s a go to lol It’s hard to be this way though because no one ever wants to hear our stories, when we add to the conversation I can see that whomever I am speaking with is only thinking about their next story, and not listening to us it’s hurtful. Anyone else experience this?

  • September 5, 2016 at 10:03 pm

    She’s given up , mental health issues go hand in hand with us, depression, bi-polar, these are things we live with because we feel more profoundly than others. I imagine your sister has reached her breaking point, she is escaping the pain of others and her own sorrows with distance, I have gone through similar experiences where deciding to care about yourself for once may seem selfish to you she is still surrounded by pain, by pretending she doesn’t care about others, finally saying this in not my problem is a way for her to cope. Believe me though if she is living the homeless life than she is surrounded by more pain and suffering than you can even imagine, she may try to block it out and may even lose herself in the process but living that way surrounded by people in that much pain is probably making her worse when all she really wants is to disappear.

  • September 5, 2016 at 9:48 pm

    I’m so very sorry to hear your sadness and realize that after all the help she’s given to others, she’s the one suffering. Is your sister addicted to something as well? Prayer. Lots of prayer. And it seems to me like someone is going to have to intervene. Someone who has been in her shoes. She obviously has some mental health issues…God bless her. I also have some mental health issues that I deal with. Medication and counseling can be a huge help. It’s hard to remember that it’s an illness and not a choice. I know I feel like I help so many others, why can’t I heal this one thing about myself. But then I realize I can….with the right medication, sleep, healthy practices, prayer and other good things. It’s frustrating to need the medication but if we had high blood pressure or diabetes or cancer…we would think nothing of it. I pray that your sister can get help. I will pray. If I can help in any other way, let me know. God bless.

  • September 5, 2016 at 7:33 pm

    I feel that by sending her absent healing which can be very powerful, hopefully the heavy burdens that she feels she has around her will gradually be lifted. Everyone has a choice in life and hopefully she will start to take responsibility for herself soon, and when she does then I am sure you will all be there to help her. Sending you love.

  • September 5, 2016 at 3:28 pm

    Fits me to a “T”. For years when I was younger I couldn’t understand or handle the raw force of dealing with all the emotions and thoughts going on around me. It was so overwhelming. Now that I am in my 40s I am better able to handle it all but it still gets overwhelming for me at times. This is especially true due to me being a nurse and feeling all the pain and sadness that my patients feel. I have never been able to turn it off or even down. Many times I have to step back and constantly ask myself, “Am I feeling this or is it someone else?” Being an empath has helped me in my job but it can also be either a blessing or a curse at times depending on the situation.

  • September 5, 2016 at 3:19 pm

    This is how I used to be, I feel like I’ve suppressed it a lot over the years and possibly damaged my ability. I still trade emotions a lot. If someone else is upset I give them my happiness and take from them the sad but it’s always a more intense depression when I get it… Crowds are the worst.

  • September 5, 2016 at 3:14 pm

    Thank you for your message. It is comforting to know that my experiences can help ease someone’s pain, especially when that healing is long overdue <3

  • September 5, 2016 at 2:02 pm

    Dear Raven,

    I’m not sure how I found this article, but I’m delighted that I did.

    I’ve been an empath my entire life and, growing up, struggled with a mother who was an engulfer and who couldn’t seem to tell the difference between herself and me, her eldest.

    After reading your article, I’ve had the insight that my mother was most probably an empath as well, and not a sane one. It has opened me to be more compassionate towards her, even tho’ she is now in spirit.

    Thank you enormously for your role in my achieving this insight, which is leading me to greater feelings of forgiveness and compassion for my mother.

  • September 4, 2016 at 5:26 am

    This describes my beautiful sister, but life became to much and she has developed mental health issues, she used to be a holistic health professional, helping many people, she had a very successful practice while on medication, then asked her doctor to take her off it, which he did not want her to do, things progressed badly and she is homeless now, living in her car. She will not accept any diagnosis, she gets a check for her basic needs from my brother, but refuses to believe there is anything wrong with her. I would not say this except for the fact that she is mean and hateful and her illness almost cost my brother his marriage. There is nothing left of the kind caring person she once was. I do not know how to help her. She will not even seek holistic help because she is in denial. Can anyone advise?

  • September 4, 2016 at 2:32 am

    In reading your article, and the following comments, I definitely think I may have the touch of an empath. Sensitive to everything around me is a definite. When I noted the variations in sounds, discomfort being around large groups, and having people open up to you … Those were the kickers to me. I have had people tell me before that I am very perceptive, taking in everything I see and hear. Explains quite a bit. Thank you!

  • September 3, 2016 at 8:06 pm

    I’ve known this for many years. I emote the feelings that others are suppressing, I hate arrogance, when I know of children and animals especially being neglected or abused it affects me physically, im a defender of every kind of underdog. I’m steadily becoming a hermit to avoid crowds and noise. I don’t even like white noise. After working in heavily populated areas I’m wiped out. I consistently ask God to lift my burdens of the world so they won’t crush me as I automatically take them on.

  • September 3, 2016 at 7:45 am

    All of this is so true for me.I have known for years that I’m an empath,yet it is difficult to explain to those who are not. This will definitely help me with that. thanks.

  • September 2, 2016 at 10:38 pm

    ME! Anyone who isn’t an empath will not understand. EVER!

  • September 2, 2016 at 1:03 am

    This is so right! I can not watch the news, hate seeing posts about abused/neglected animals, all that is wrong in this world. It frustrates me too knowing I feel it and can’t always do anything about it 🙁 Will not tolerate liars, I can see right through them. I found out I was this way by going to the doctor for some ailment only to be told I was perfectly healthy! then finding out a loved one was the one that was sick and I was picking up on it! It’s exhausting! Thank you for this, will hope it helps others understand us more 🙂

  • September 1, 2016 at 9:42 pm

    You expressed exactly how I felt. It will be great for my husband and teen children to understand me better as a person. what makes be vibrant and what can exhaust me.

  • September 1, 2016 at 9:33 pm

    Great article. Makes me wonder if I might be! Makes sense…will have to research! Thank you.

  • September 1, 2016 at 8:20 pm

    Exactly describes how I am.
    Sadly I do have to watch the news. I wish I could heal the world.
    Also, I get upset or distressed when people say to me ; toughen up . Stop being so soft/stupid.
    People who are not an Empath do not understand ever.
    Seeing people hurting actually hurts me.
    When someone close to me hurts it gives me pain at the top of my legs.

  • September 1, 2016 at 3:48 pm

    Excellent.. help me with me.. lol well written and thought through..

  • September 1, 2016 at 6:46 am

    This was truly a blessing for me to come across. Most empath articles about about the traits of; or, “You know you’re an empath if…..” and so on. We’re obviously already aware of them! Lol But, it is definitely refreshing to find information for the people in our lives to understand these things about us without having to “try” to explain it ourselves. To have examples that they can relate to in our relationships that aren’t just a coincidence, but proof that we’re not just emotional and over-sensitive for no reason.
    The fact that society is realizing that you really can’t judge a book by it’s cover is a small step in the right direction. Some of us are just further along the path than others. And it’s not a race. It’s a movement. For everyone. Many thanks! <3

  • September 1, 2016 at 6:21 am

    Great post. I figured out fairly recently that I am most definitely an empath. Now I need to work on shielding and protective spells so that I can function!!

  • August 31, 2016 at 4:04 pm

    This is amazing, it describes me to a T, I can’t see animals suffer, it sends me into depression. Every single item that was written describes how I feel or view things.

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