There is a vast difference between truly loving someone, and loving the idea of them, or who you want them to be. If you are brave enough to examine yourself, and your relationship, read these 9 signs below:
1. You always push them to become better people.
You’re a team. You always push your partners to become the best possible version of themselves. You are always there to support them in their pursuit of their dreams and goals. You are there to hold their hands when times get rough. You are there to cheer them on during their proudest moments. You are there standing by their side through the good times and the bad. The point is that you are always trying to enable them to maximize their potential.
2. You find a way to seamlessly build a future around them and your relationship together.
You understand that you’re not just playing around with your relationship. You don’t see your partner as just some temporary person at a particular phase of your life. You see your relationship as an important foundation on which your future could be built around. You plan a wonderful future with your partner and your relationship in mind. You find a way to envision a future for yourself wherein you are living out all your goals and dreams while your partner is standing at your side every step of the way.
3. You don’t feel the need to show your relationship off to other people.
You know the type of couples who are guilty of this. They try so hard to portray to their social media networks that they are in a relationship that is full of absolute bliss and love whether or not that’s really the case. You don’t feel compelled to broadcast the ins and outs of your relationship to your friends because you are secure in your own romance. You know that things are going well and that they couldn’t be better. You aren’t seeking validation from your social media followers because the only validation you need is your own.
4. You are perfectly fine with occasional solitude.
You know how to be alone. You aren’t completely dependent on being in your relationship. Yes, you are thankful that you are in the kind of relationship that a lot of people want to be in as well, but that doesn’t mean that you don’t allot time for yourself every once in a while. If for whatever reason, your partner is unable to cater to your needs, you have no problems with taking care of yourself. You don’t need to constantly have your partner there to baby you when things get rough.
5. You aren’t carrying any emotional baggage from previous relationships.
Sometimes, people dive into new relationships as a coping mechanism for dealing with difficult breakups. If you know that you are completely over the pain and bitterness of previous toxic relationships, then you can bet that the love you have for your current partner is real. Relationships that are plagued by emotional baggage from previous romantic flames can make for very problematic dynamics.
6. You feel at home whenever you’re together regardless of where you are.
When you’re with your significant other, you start to understand that home is a person and not a place. You start feeling the kind of comfort and peace that you used to feel as a child when you were within the safe space of your bedroom. That’s the kind of comfort that an infant finds in its mother embrace; the kind of comfort that a majestic eagle has as it’s soaring through the blue sky; the kind of comfort that waves have as they brush up against the shore in an endless cyclic motion.
7. The trust in your relationship is palpable.
You value and you trust each other. You always believe in each other. You know that your partner is always going to be looking out for you at all times. You know that you never have to worry about what your partner is doing when you’re not paying attention. You always know that you have each other’s backs and that you would never betray each other.
8. You don’t compare your relationship to other peoples’.
The inside dealings of other relationships are no longer of concern to you. You don’t care about what other relationships are like because you understand that all relationships are different. You don’t have time to be noticing the nuances of other relationships because you are too caught up in the love and wonder of your own relationship. You are too busy getting lost in the excitement of your own personal romance that there’s practically no point in comparing it to others.
9. You are no longer interested in wondering about what it would be like to date other people.
You’re no longer available to the market. You don’t care about the possibility of meeting better people because you know you’ve found the best possible person to be with already. You are so secure and content in your relationship that you no longer wonder about whether the grass really is greener on the other side. You are so comfortable in your relationship right now and there’s no way that you would ever rock that boat.