Will all the mature ladies please stand up?
When it comes to love all of us tend to have a very different perspective on it. For some of us, love is like a bed of roses and for others it’s like a torture. We make mistakes and do wrong things for the right people. Trust me it’s normal. We are all humans with a good heart and an equally good intention. Making mistakes is not wrong, not learning your lesson is erroneous, because relationships help you in learning and growing.
Without making mistakes you can never realize your true potential. Just think about it, how you can really know yourself and your limits without making blunders along the way? Maturity doesn’t come with age. Rather, it comes with experience, be it at 20 or 40 or even 60. So dear strong ladies, in case you are wondering what exactly are those mistakes that you ought to avoid making twice, we have compiles a list that will help you immensely.
Don’t wait for calls or text
Don’t wait. It’s the biggest mistake of your life. If you want to talk to someone just text them or call them right away. Delete those who cannot take out a few seconds for you to reply or call you back. As a strong and mature woman you don’t want someone who doesn’t want you back.
You don’t have to chase people! Instead, replace them with more deserving people. Because every relationship should be consummate in nature. Infatuation is something you have to avoid no matter what. So yes! As a strong woman you ought to prioritize those who prioritize you. And beyond all, you prioritize yourself first.
Don’t forgive him
This one is tricky. As a mature woman you must not pick fight over small things but let not make him take you for granted. Let it go when he can’t do the dishes because he’s tired but never forgive him for not getting you a birthday or anniversary present. How can a man really love you if cannot make you feel special on your big or important days?
They say gifts improve and strengthen your relationships. It’s not about expensive gifts and presents. Doesn’t matter if it’s a diamond ring or a rose, all that matters is how well your partner spends money to make your feel special on your significant days.
Simultaneously, don’t forget to make him special too. As a wise and mature woman make him feel loved and wanted. It doesn’t really matter if you gift him an Audi or write him a simple love letter. It’s a sentiment that has to be in the spot light.
We love to spoil those we fall in love with. Things that make them happy are exactly the things that make us happy. But this doesn’t mean all you should want from a man is his money and wealth. The idea is to think of a fairy tale whenever you think of your love life. And you can have a fairy tale love story in any place; it doesn’t really matter if you get to live a castle or a slum. Its love and care that makes a mature woman contended and satisfied with her life.
Measure your wealth with the love and support of your man not with the money that he carries in his wallet or bank account.
Speak for yourself
As a mature woman you need to balance yourself in terms of your expressions. Do you want to piss off your partner with constant nagging and criticism? Or do you want to be the one who always compromises? Of course you don’t want any of this.
To avoid such scenarios, remember not to drive your man mad with your whining and complaints. But you have the right to express yourself, you ought to tell him about your likes, dislikes and comfort level.
Tell him to drive at a slow speed if you are scared of fast driving. Tell him you cannot watch a scary movie or a science fiction. Be expressive in your own way because sometimes people don’t get to notice things simply because they are different. If you won’t speak up for yourself then who will?
Don’t be jealous
As a matter of fact, women experience jealousy more than men whilst in a relationship. Healthy jealousy is fine, after all you love your partner and this healthy jealousy is natural to exist. But the point is, excess of everything is bad, when you get jealous you end up suffocating your partner.
As a mature and wise woman you don’t check his call logs and messages, you don’t get insecure when talks to his female colleagues. You are special that’s why you are his partner. No your worth and importance and let not jealousy acidify your sweet relationship.
Don’t force yourself into things that you don’t like
At times, most of the women force them into things they absolutely despise. You don’t have to iron his shirt when you hate ironing your own clothes. You don’t have to wear tones of make up when you like to keep it simple. You don’t have to go to the places that don’t excite you. This can harm you in long term. If a man really loves, you he will not push you into things that you don’t like. As a mature woman you got to learn to say no and set healthy limits.
Don’t bottle up things
As I stated earlier you have to be expressive in terms of your choices. As a mature woman you don’t bottle up your emotions. If there is something that has disturbed you emotionally, do not bottle it up. When you bottle up things there comes a time when your tolerance level reaches its threshold point and in the spur of the moment and disastrous anger you do more damage than the expected.
So yeah! You have to learn to express your emotions, especially the negative emotions at the right time in the right amount and in the right place. It’s a mature woman’s exclusive trait.
Don’t be afraid to pick questions
As a mature woman you ought not to be scared of picking a question. Sometimes women avoid asking questions and details when they really want to know about it. They even avoid asking question even when they have the right just because it will stress out or hurt their partner. This is not tight. Ask about things are need clarification or extensive discussions or the things that are the sole medium to eradicate ambiguity and confusion.
I know you might think it mean to have such an approach but trust me you don’t want to torture yourself with vagueness and puzzlement. Do you? Be careful in terms of the word you choose but do ask.
Trust me it’s completely okay to talk about such things. You are his partner and you are wise and mature enough to handle is and be a supportive and good listener.
Sex and Love are different
Okay ladies! This one is really important. Love and sex might have an association but don’t confuse sex for love. Love for you should be making his favorite food item because it will make him happy. Preferring silence in the morning because he loves silence in the morning. Knowing the sugar quantity, he prefers in his tea, going out for the long walks and movie dates. Not only you but he ought to do the same for you. Love is not about sex.
Although your sexual life is of great significance but don’t let it be a subject matter for sexual activity only. Even your sex and physical intimacy should have emotions. It should make you feel excellent and loved. If not, you need to rethink about your life choices and about this particular relationship.
Dear ladies, be wild and crazy and express yourself fully. You don’t have to hold onto things. Nobody will express your feelings and mention your needs on your behalf. You got to love yourself first if you want others to love you.
It’s okay to compromise on little things but don’t settle down for less than you deserve. A mature and wise woman never compromises with her self-esteem and self-confidence. She radiates love and kindness. She is direct, flexible in her choices, tough. She knows how to handle stresses and stands strongly with her man in the tough times. She is capable of taking stand for herself in case of her rights’ violation. She doesn’t tolerate abuse either physical or verbal. She knows love creates happiness and not destruction.
So as a mature woman does not shy away from discussing problems and sharing her issues. Learn to say no to things that make you uncomfortable, if your man loves you he won’t push or force you into such things. A mature woman takes care of herself and her man and expects him to do the same.