“It’s a rare man who can stand being around an intelligent woman, let alone married to her.” Bette Davis
Finding the perfect guy is not an easy task and the fact that there’s such a small pool of candidates for us to choose from makes it even more frustrating. Still, most girls manage to find the ability and patience to keep looking and looking until they finally get that one guy who they always desired, the one who makes their world spin just by looking at them from across the room, the one who brings never ending love and excitement in their life and the one who they can actually imagine spending their entire lives with.
But then there are those girls who let their minds take their decisions for them and not their hearts, who just can’t seem to settle on any guy they meet and who let their intelligence get the better of their emotions.
So if you know a girl like this, you’ve probably seen these following traits in her:
1. She’s not afraid of being alone
She doesn’t want a guy to come and fill an empty space in her life or to come and hold her tight in the lonely hours of the night. No, she’s perfectly capable of handling her own life and her own problems. So the only time that she’ll actually want to be in a relationship is when she’ll know that what she’s getting is truly what she deserves.
She won’t just settle for any guy who come her way but will keep looking to find that one person who is as independent, secure and mature as her.
2. She has a long checklist
Every person in the world has a mental list of the attributes they want in their partner. For most girls, the list might be something as short and simple as a guy who is good-looking, funny and has a successful career. But for an intelligent girl, this list will usually be quite long and specific and will range from things like religious views to general outlook on life. She is well aware of the kind of person she is and the kind of person she needs to be with in order to be happy.
3. She’s not dependent on anyone
Gone are the days when the only way a woman could survive was if she had some kind of male support in her life, whether this support came from her father when she was little or from her husband for the later part of her life. Sure, she’ll always be daddy’s little girl, but she’s grown up now, she has made something of her life and she does not need to depend on any guy to support her financially, emotionally or physically.
All the independence she has achieved has taught her to value her life more and to enjoy being alone. So the thought of allowing a guy to invade her space is pretty scary sometimes.
4. Dating is not her top priority
She has a booming career, she knows the value of her friendships and she regards the love of her family above anything else. All of this gives her very little time to worry about going out and meeting guys who may or may not end up adding more meaning to her already amazing life.
5. She’s fully aware of the possible end to any relationship
All those romance novels and all the love stories they depicted in movies never really made sense to her. She knows the realities of life, she has seen a lot of breakups very closely and she accepts that love rarely lasts forever. So she needs to convince herself that meeting someone and falling in love isn’t completely pointless, that she isn’t investing herself into something that will just eventually leave her broken and helpless and that what takes the extra time for an intelligent woman to actually commit to you.
6. She realizes that physical attraction will fade with time and age
Now she’s not this person who’ll act all high and mighty and claim that physical attraction doesn’t play any role when she’s choosing a partner. Of course, you can’t be with someone who you don’t find even the least bit attractive, whose touch doesn’t make your heart beat faster and who can’t really turn you on by anything they do.
But intelligent women realize the fact that the only way they can truly love a person is if they are actually beautiful inside AND out. If these women want to spend their entire lives with you, then they need to love the way you look but they need to love the way you talk, speak and think even more.
7. She tends to be intimidating
Intelligent women aren’t afraid to speak their mind out and stand up for everything they believe in. Most guys aren’t secure enough to accept this. They either feel like their masculinity is being challenged by such women or they just worry that they’ll never be good enough. Either way, they end up feeling intimidated and stop pursuing any such woman.
8. She accepts change
People keep changing- friends leave, lovers break up, and life does not stop for anyone in the world. She knows that and she doesn’t live in her own fantasy world where everything that’s good in life will always remain permanent. This reality stops her from fully committing to any one person and maintaining the belief they’ll always be together.
9. She can’t fully conform to modern dating practices
She hadn’t even gotten used to all the random and psychotic messages she received on Facebook all the time when she got to know about Tinder. This technology-based dating just seems so ridiculous and impersonal to her that she gets put off by any form of dating whatsoever.
10. She has taught herself not to trust just anyone
This final attribute is the pinnacle of all the problems she has faced with dating. It’s not easy for her to determine whether someone deserves to be trusted and loved. She’ll go crazy making a comprehensive pros and cons list for any prospective partner.
She needs to calculate how big of a risk she is taking by jumping into a relationship and leaving herself vulnerable to all the possible heartbreak and devastation she might face in the future.