by Andrea Schulman,
Guest writer, In5D.com
Finding a great relationship is one big manifestation most people find themselves on the hunt for at least once or twice in life (and usually a lot more than that!). Though love comes easy for some, other people struggle to manifest a great relationship, and this can cause a lot of heartache and pain. Many of these people seek to understand how to use the Law of Attraction to manifest the perfect mate.
If you are struggling to attract a great relationship, run through this list of reasons why people struggle to manifest a great relationship. Are any of these true for you?
1. Belief in a limited dating pool
There are a lot of people out there who believe the dating pool is small, and that their potential mate is hidden as if he or she were a needle in a hay stack.
However, with the Law of Attraction, your ability to manifest potential relationships is limitless, so it is completely accurate to say there are tons of “perfect” mates for you swimming in your dating pool. The question is, has your vibration made you good bait?
Just because you haven’t seen them, doesn’t mean there aren’t plenty of fish in the sea!
2. Believing you aren’t good enough (having low self-esteem)
People around us reflect how we feel about ourselves because with the Law of Attraction, what we get from others is what we ourselves put out there. Therefore, if you find that you are consistently attracting mates who are abusive, neglectful or simply just wrong for you, realize they are simply treating you in the same way you are treating yourself.
To attract a mate who loves and respects you requires you to love and respect yourself first. Focus on your strong qualities and features and be kind to yourself to attract a mate who does the same.
3. Believing there’s only so much “time” to find a mate
This seems to be common especially with women, and I understand why. There is this undercurrent in our culture that pulls women into feeling they must race to find a mate, have children and settle down.
Please realize that winning a race isn’t really what you want out of life. Even if you were to win the race, get a proposal at a young age, and have two kids by the age of thirty, this is not a guarantee that you will be happy with your relationship. There are many women who have won this race and still not found the companionship they were looking for.
This is because time doesn’t matter, what matters is aligning yourself with someone who makes you happy, and that can happen at any age. Look around and you will see evidence of this. There are women of all ages who are finding great relationships.
4. Believing a mate is necessary
I firmly believe that my absence of this limiting belief is precisely what brought my husband to me. Haven’t you ever noticed that when you don’t “need” something, it shows up almost immediately?
Before I had met my husband I had recently gotten out of a serious, four-year relationship. After the breakup, I decided I was going to take a year off from dating-and I meant it! However, six months into my relationship-free year, I met my husband. I decided to take a leap of faith with my husband, and we’ve been together now for 10 years.
The moral of the story is that the things we want will come to us when we decide we will be okay without them.
5. Complaining about bad dates and relationships
I’ve seen a number of men and women who consistently focus on the problems in their dating life, and this makes it hard for them to find great relationships. Refrain from complaining about how small the dating pool is. Keep yourself from telling everyone how horrible your last date was. Resist the urge to verbally bash your ex.
Please realize every time you state something negative about relationships and dating you are literally calling more unwanted dating circumstances into your existence. Keep it positive, and if that’s too hard, just keep quiet!
6. Envying other relationships
It can be natural to view other people’s relationships through the lens of envy when we find ourselves alone and single. However, envy only pushes what we want further away from us.
Envy can be a challenge to tame. If you are looking for some more information on eliminating envy from your life, check out this article here.
Attracting the right mate is all about loving yourself, having positive expectations about relationships and not taking the process so seriously. If you’ve been having a hard time finding a mate, what do you think has been holding you back? Comment below and let me know!
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About the author:
Andrea Schulman is a former high school psychology teacher and the creator of Raise Your Vibration Today, which provides free and easy Law of Attraction techniques. She will be available for group educational seminars and webinars starting in the summer of 2015.